my husband is a drunk, and he never apreciated me until i got tired of his beating and put his *** in jail.now he calls saying that he loves me and that hes going to a program to be a better husband and father.he always acused me of cheating when the truth is he was the one cheating the whole time we were together. i was faithful.right now i feel that im in love with someone else that makes me feel everything i never felt with my husband.and he feels the same way. we never had any fisical contact. we just cant help it, and we flirt, but never take it further. we want to. we text message each other, we talk about how much we want each other, but i ask him to stop when i feel that i cant take it anymore.(in a good way). looked at pictures i have with m husband and i dont look happy in them. now even my co workers can tell im happy. im just confused because my children miss dad. he was never mean to our children, our children only know the fun loving part of dad. but i dont.
2006-08-09 16:59:21 · 4 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheating husband, drinking husband, abusive husband. I think it's time to move on. The kids may only know the fun part of dad, but if he drinks in front of them, that's not good. You shouldn't even think about the other guy as a reason for leaving, although he seems like a good match for you in your mind. You should leave for your own reasons, find out who you are, and see what you want out of life. One relationship to another is not the way to go.
2006-08-09 17:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer this for you I am a child of 15 year mental and physical abusive stepfather. The difference between your situation and mine is that it took my mother 15 years before she realized that it wasn't her it was him. I thank God that she did leave because I think she knew that eventually someone was going to die. Short story did we all live happily ever after yeah she went on to remarry and eventually I founf love to and married and now have my own children. My advice go to this man who loves you forget about your husband divorce him and move on from what I have learned as a child and now an adult is that a tiger never changes his spots my step dad to this day claims that he did nothing wrong and it was my mothers fault she was cheating etc......So is it not funny that the same situation that you are having happened to my mother 15 yrs ago these people don't change so I implore you to move on and never look back
2006-08-10 00:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by kuutiekat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO, the greatest thing in the world is relationship knowledge which gives us the skills to keep love if and when we find it.
like someone else wrote: you deserve to be happy and your kids will definitely benefit from that. the question is, will you make the same or worse mistakes with a new love unless you learn how to make a relationship good?
2006-08-10 03:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to be happy! When you are happy, Your kids will see it to! You owe it to your kids to be happy! They can still see their dad, but you deserve a good guy! Good luck!
2006-08-10 00:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by dtammyus♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋