Young wives who cheated on Husbands.?

Question

I am 27 years old and have been married alost 3 years. My husband is 11 years older and we haven't had sex in almost a year. I ignitiate all the time but always get shot down. My husband and I are having a tough time and I do not know what to do. I proposed marriage couseloring but he refused. I do not know what else to do. I have a male friend that is very good looking. I am attractive to him as he is attractive to me. We went out to lunch several times and he knows that I am married. I do not talk bad about my husband to him. I am just so tempted to become closer to friends with this gentlemen. Are their any young wives in the early stages of their marriage that cheated on their husbands? Why did u cheat? Did u tell your husband and do u regret it?

Answer 1

i have cheated with young wives , the main reason they do it is to feel more attractive, feel more wanted and sexy , in some cases there looking for more of a emmotional connection (just to see ), next to that reason is the just want to try something different

Answer 2

My son has had a similar incident with the myspace thing and well......is now divorced . His wife was involved with a guy on myspace and things went from there and she moved out of my sons home right into his home. I know that this is hard and hurts very bad but ask yourself this... Do I want to spend the rest of my life/marriage dealing with this...always being afraid of what he's doing when your not there? After you have a long talk with him explaining that you will not put up with this kind of behavior in your relationship and that if he truly does love you then he will stop all of it. Look at it from an outside point of veiw and see if he has changed for the better. Because after all if it were true love he wouldn't do something that would hurt your marriage. He chose you for his wife/partner for life did he mean it? There are most certainly boundries for marriage and it doesn't mean a prison cell but it does mean that there is no cheating allowed ! curious here.......do you really think the girl would admit to anything just because you asked her? She is very interested and if your husband doesn't think so then he's not to bright or he's......... one thing I have learned with all these blogging sites is this......it always leads to cheating in one way or form when a married guy or girl is involved and having to many conversations with the opposite sex. Your Young a by all means not stuck, don't ever let them make you feel stuck/trapped in the relationship. Good luck and I hope you guys make your marriage all it can be :)

Answer 3

You will regret it no matter what. Your in a tough situation, but you know this just isn't right. Do everything you can, tell him that intimacy is important to you, and that your having a tough time with the way he is acting. It maybe that he's suffering from ED and he's ashamed to tell you. He might have a reason that you don't know. Talk to him very plainly, and if nothing works, you may have to get a divorce if you feel like that is the right thing to do. But cheating on him will stain you for the rest of your life. Despite what the movies and t.v. show you, it is not glamourous, you will
end up hating yourself for it eventually, knowing that you had valid options but you chose to be an adulterer instead.

Answer 4

Don't cheat on your husband. This is not going to fix your situation with your husband and will only make matters worse. Is your husband having health issues that he may be too embarassed to talk to you about? Like ED? He may be suffering, and if you start up an affair with another man that might kill him emotionally. Make sure that you exhaust all avenues and then if he still acts distant, get separated and let him know that this could lead to divorce. Never ever cheat and make a liar out of yourself.

Answer 5

My wife cheated, did most despicable things for at least 3 years, I loved her and new that she was destroying herself, she meant too much, to let that happen. I stayed married to her for 20 more years, 30years all together, it never happened again, we had two more beautiful children, that won’t have been if I left her. Some of my heart was lost, the hurt it caused me was so great. She passed away but I could always see that she hurt over it too. She treated me so great till she was gone. The love is always there as is the hurt, miss her so.

Answer 6

Don't cheat. Seriously talk about this to your husband. If you want to bring this whole cheating thing up I'm sure it will open his eyes. Maybe in a bad way or maybe in a good way. It may be time to separate from him.

Answer 7

If you want to end your marriage you should just end it. Cheating is never right under any circumstances. You are contemplating cheating which means you are obviously not happy with your husband so just leave.

Answer 8

No, you did nothing wrong. Do whatever you like while you are still young and alive. You will never know what will happen tomorrow and if that happens to you, you will end up regret. By that time, everything is too late for you.

Answer 9

Hi. your husband sounds like he is not as sexual as you are. it is the same way for me.....but ...I make up for it in another way. This way ,I am not hurting me or him by going out of our relationship so that "I can get off".Are you only struggling with this issue, not enough attention in the bedroom? i f so,what....
Do you love your husband? if you answered "yes" than why do you want to have sex with another man???Also, does your husband know that you have lunch dates with this other attractive man?( is he married too. or does he like to break up marriages.)Wouldn't you be upset and jealous "if"your husband
casually had lunch dates with another attractive woman?
Soo..does this other man know that you are in it just for sex?I would inform him because:
1.he might just want this kind of relationship,just sex...
2.he wants more than sex and cares for you,and wants a relationship....
3.he has had sex with many other woman before you and doesn't care about his wife or family.(if he has them)
4.if he has lots of other conquences, he may have a STD,and, do you want to chance that.( he isn't going to tell youhow many woman that he has been with)
I would talk to your husband when you have time to talk.(not right after work, while he is watching tv...)schedule a time to sit down and talk.( if you have children make arrangements for them not to be there so you are not interrupted) Please have a list of concerns youhave and talk to him and please tell him about your friend(he will find out..trust me.....)Maybe you can resolve this.by talking honestly and openly about your concerns.
Before,i met my significant other,I was fooling around with a married man.
He was sexy and it was mainly a sexual relationship,but i wanted more...He didn't...That hurt me. I thought that he loved me,but he enjoyed the free sex.
I am so lucky that i didn't get a STD and ruin my life and my future.Your lucky if aman is understanding if you obtain a STD,usually they run away because
they don't want to chance getting one. Also, they think in the back of there minds ,is she going to have other affairs like the one she had prior to meet-
ing me....Why husband knows everything. I love him so much and you need to realize there are more important things in a relation ship than sex. Like:trust,love,being each others best friend and soulmate,romance, etc...
(I am not saying sex is not important,but as you get older you will have different priorities.( I do amazing enough,)I hope you will take to heart what i have said...Marriages today don't last because there is no communication,
and they don't want to work on it..it's sad....
Think back to when you met your husband and think about why you'll fell in love and got together in the first place. Think of all his qualities and why you are attractive to him and tell him.Also,tellhim when he doesn't want sex, it hurts you and you deserve to know why he rejects you.(maybe its the wrong time-find out when, and some men like to do the pursuing....tellhim when he rejects you go and take careof yourself. This may intrigue him and maybe he may watch......you never know. it helped me. good-luck.I know how frustrated you are, I was in the same boat til my sinificant other and I talked it through.
be honest...always remember: what goes around, comes around....

Answer 10

only if you love him don't cheat because things will never be the same no matter how many times you say that you are sorry it wont mean **** and you will never get over it so just use your head on what you do,