see, i wanna b more outgoing, but i don't no how! please help!!! i really need 2 no how!
2006-08-09 16:46:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
About ten years ago I was teaching an acting course for a private school. There was one student, 'Amy', who was so shy that whenever she was up in front of the class, her face would turn red, her body would freeze up, she would choke on her words....every time. She wouldn't talk to people.... she usually just listened. The other students basically dismissed her as a loser.
But she showed up for every class. She kept turning red, freezing up, choking on her words. Every week. I knew she wasn't a loser.
At the end of the term there was a mandatory performance by the students. I was scared for her...getting in front of an audience when everything she had done up until then had been really quite bad in terms of acting.
When she got on stage and did her performance, her shyness and fear turned into something astoundingly beautiful. She knew that she had to make her performance work. She knew she could not allow herself to embarrass herself....not when it mattered to her.
Her performance that night was by far one of the most touching and truthful things I have ever seen by an actor.
Fear might knock on your heart but fear, shyness, is a valuable sensation....it's there to let you know that the source of your greatest fear is also the place where you've kept your most valuable treasure.
If you want to conquer your shyness, you have to look at your greatest fear....and realize too that that fear is trying to protect you from revealing the most amazing and beautiful thing about you.
Shyness tends to be a trait amongst very intelligent, creative people. Society generalizes fear as being a bad thing. It's not. It's a natural human trait that is in you for a reason.
My answer.... Make efforts to learn about what you don't like about yourself and why. Do the same for what you do like about yourself. Understand that all people have fear. All people. Understand that someone needs you....even a stranger... a person on the street....a child....Understand that out of fear comes incredible things....
All the best to you and yours.
Markus
2006-08-09 17:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by markus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to know how to be outgoing? You are shy because thats your personality and there is nothing wrong with being shy and having your own personality. I would prefer a shy person to an outgoing, sometimes outgoing is overwhelming. You are who you are and should be proud of that and not want to change your personality for anybody or for any cliched reasons (popularity). Some of the people on this site asking questions seem to have problems with understanding what being an individual is. People are always wanting acceptance and to please others not themselves. if you think it will make you happy your probably lying? I would never want to change the way I am because it makes me an individual and not fake. I would rather be true to myself and love who I am than to be someone else for the sake of others or try to belong somewhere thats not me. But if you must then hang out with other outgoing people or you can go to places where you have to interact with people, maybe a job where you are in direct contact with the public daily or do volunteer work.
2006-08-09 17:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by boxerlovergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a painfully shy person. But in the past couple yrs I've improved greatly. Just get involved in things--sports, clubs, maybe even speech. It also helps if you 'make yourself' talk to people. You have to be willing to do it. Once you start saying hi to people it should come a lot more easier.
2006-08-09 16:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by *liz* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a make-over. I find when I dress like an average...whatever..I am just a blend in the crowd. If I take time to do my hair, make-up, and wear something nicer I feel good inside and it explodes to the outside. Also...start being weird at home. Dance in the mirror and sing whatever...so it doesn't feel so weird taking it down a tone in public
2006-08-09 17:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by hambone1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told my son to act like he is his brother Pretend you are someone else you admire very much... He did this on a job interviewl, got the job and has a new girlfriend too!
2006-08-09 16:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by rie_helm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and gradually put yourself into situations where you feel safe to test the waters. Its okay to be shy but know that you can overcome your shyness.
2006-08-09 17:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by christine_biasiotto2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a model and a cheer leader soo that helps alot .... but I would say speak your mind and say hi to new people.... don't be affraid to give your opinion and take others.... good luck.... if you want to talk more .... go to my profile
2006-08-09 16:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by Chaysee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just told myself that i have to if i want to experience the things i was missing. it was a hard step but after i took my own first dare it got easier. i dared myself to do something i really wanted to do but was afraid of and well just went from there.
2006-08-09 16:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta fake it til you make it. And a good place to fake it is one where you have some status - so volunteer to take charge of something(s).
2006-08-09 16:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by badbear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea...ive always been very out going...god i dont get these.."shy" ppl they kinda freak meh out....ERRRRRRMMMMMM!
2006-08-09 17:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋