My cousin's dad died, and i was wondering if you know how i could comfort her...She is 9 and i am not particularly good at affection or comfort. I mean when people are hurting i really don't know what to do... All i think i can do is let her cry, and i let her know i here for her if she needs me right??
2006-08-09 16:44:53 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
let her cry, u just hug her
2006-08-09 16:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her let her cry it out and hug her...Maybe take her somewhere to get her mind off it....But the best thing is to be there for her.... It doesnt take much to show affection or comfort to someone. Just talk to her in a calm voice and have the feeling from your heart like you really do care.... I hope things work out... Just remember to give her a few hugs that helps. Also tell her ...her dad will always be looking after her and will always be watching over her ...
2006-08-09 16:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are on the right track. I would also ask if she needed someone to stay with her until she felt better. Seperation from a family member is always tough, and death is final. I cracked when an aunt died when I was 16! I wish somebody had ANYTHING nice to help me then!! It was a cold time of my life. It's when I turned to illicit things. Keep in touch with her every day, and reassure her often, that you feel her pain! She'll really appreciate it!!
2006-08-09 16:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by thewordofgodisjesus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her and make her feel she's not alone and let her know that her dad will always watch over her no matter where he might be
sometimes the best thing to do is also just to give a comforting embrace to the person even if you say nothing at all, that person will feel your warmth
it will take a little time to heal and accept for her, be patient being with her coz she'll go through alot of changes eventually if she still can't accept things
2006-08-09 16:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by leelee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gabs4 28 is right. Let her cry and reassure her that if she needs to talk about it you are there for her. I cannot imagine going through that at that age. Last June/July I lost 3 family members and it damned near did me in. At a time like that there is not a lot you can do. Just be supportive. Best of luck.
2006-08-09 16:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mav 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what "empathy" means ? It means being able to
feel the other persons pain. Or , feeling compassion for them.
Yes, telling her you'll be there for her is right. You've said your no
good at affection or comfort.....So, develope those feelings. You
will need these as you get older. And it will make you a better
person. I had to learn that also. I worked in a nursing home and
hospitals, believe me, you'll learn how to care. Much Luck.
2006-08-09 17:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She';s only a little girl - I hope she is being given the chance to be just that. She will need comfort and reassurance. She may feel others she loves will leave her too. Encourage her to talk. Show her love - and plenty of it.
2006-08-09 17:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Red Robin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let her grieve. Everyone does it differently. I cry really, really hard for a long time. Then I like to remember. To celebrate the life that was lived. you don't have to hug her, just touch her and let her know you are hurting too.
2006-08-09 16:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by rera1397 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your thinking is right. she needs to get her feelings out, in fact, my cousins dad died when she was 11, so I took her to my house which is brick, and gave her a bag of ice and let her throw it at the brick as hard as she could, but with every peice she threw she had to yell out something that she was hurt about, to him. like " you wont be there when i get married, and that hurts me.." ect.. then when she has yelled out everything that hurts or angers he about it, itll be easier to heal, and she can then be able to remember the good things because the bad was out of the way.
2006-08-09 16:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by red_night_shade 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you go to comfort her, think of the most painful thing that ever
happened to you and in what way you would've liked to be comforted and then do that to her.
2006-08-09 16:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by ZenTurkey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer, hug her and tell her you'd be there for her, she'll be ok. Children that age seem to cope with death better than adults. I guess they really don't understand it, which is good. You'll be fine!
2006-08-09 16:49:37 · answer #11 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋