We just got married, but we've been together for 5yrs -- I love her to death! (in a good way) -- I just want to make sure we want each other 30 years from now! lol
2006-08-09 16:43:20 · 7 answers · asked by slosco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do something new!!! Change your looks, try things you have never tried before, go on a little vacation, go on a picnic and talk! If you need help in opening up, play a game that will get you both to be open and intimate (see link below)
In the bedroom:
Lots of foreplay, use toys and experiment, guys love using toys on a woman, thats the fun of sex is experimenting, and be open to new ideas, you may think it's something she won't like, but in the end it may surprise you.
Try all variations and see what stimulates you most.
You need to be creative to avoid sexual boredom. Try a new location, rent a hotel room, experiment with new positions, buy new lingerie, rent a sexy video, try a hot bath, candles and a massage. Cast your inhibitions to the wind. And then get busy!
2006-08-09 18:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we just celebrated our 25th anniversary and we are happy together. Now, as for passion, it's a bit much to ask for passion for the next 30 years. What we found happens is that over the next several years your love will sort of fade away. You may even find that you are not 'in love' anymore for some time. That is because love evolves and we think that while it is changing it means that we are not in love anymore and maybe should move on. DON'T. Wait and be patient, polite and talk about just getting along and seeing what happens. What comes back is so much respect, admiration and awe. Someone that is willing to keep it together through those rough times IS someone you can share 30 years with. Doing anything for 30 years takes commitment, which means sticking to it even if you don't FEEL like it.
Passion, well we have talked about how we miss it, and after 25 years you can't even really fake it but we would not give up our comfort and happiness for all the passion in the world.
2006-08-09 23:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by ~K~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the question that people have asked for hundreds of years. It takes open communication and honesty. You have to be able to talk to each other about everything, including sexual items. Always take each other on a date at least twice a month. Take turns making the plans for the date. Most of all, always be polite, never go to sleep mad at each other and always make the other person feel better than you do. Good Luck
2006-08-09 23:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Role play. Meet out for dinner. Meet for drinks. flirt across a crowed room as if it was the first time. Dance ,,act as if you don't know each other things like that. put on wigs and fake mustashes..OH MY! I CAN'T WAIT UNTIL I GET MARRIED!
Good Luck:)
2006-08-10 00:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by Peek@u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. i once heard to keep the marriage alive is to fall in love with each other over and over again daily like as if you both have just met.
of course, it would need both of you to work on spicing up and keeping the marriage alive... good luck...
2006-08-09 23:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mint_Always 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep making it surprising.
Flowers at work.
A surprise dinner.
Being an ACTIVE LISTENER....
Just show her you care :)
2006-08-10 00:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her lingerie, take her for a romantic outting, hire a stripper then send him on his way afterwords and ........
2006-08-10 06:32:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋