after that he apoligizes and wants to have make up sex, should i forgive him, because i want to conceive by him, he says there is no other dudes that wants me.. please help
2006-08-09 16:37:26 · 22 answers · asked by Tanikia R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
NO!!!! BECAUSE IF YOU GET PREGNANT BY HIM THERE IS NO TELLING IF HE IS GOING TO CONTINUE OR IF HE IS GOING TO STOP BECAUSE A BABY DOES NOT CHANGE A MAN SOMETIMES. SO GET OUT OF IT WHY YOU CAN BECAUSE THIS IS SERIOUS
2006-08-09 18:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by skills 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old are you ? and why in this world would you want to be with someone whobeats you? Do you really want a child to be beat as well? I was married to aman for 5 years and was always too scared to leave and I had 3 children who had to suffer the consequences of my poor judgement . I am not trying to be mean to you, I know how you feel , but you really need to leave him . He wants you to believe that no one else will have you , but I am sure that is not true!!!! I am sure you are a beautiful , smart woman and you obviouslly want help or you would not be on here asking us. I was always told how nobody would want me with 3 kids and guess what they did . I have a wonderful marriage and he is a wonderful father to my previous children and our child together . Please think really hard about this . What he is doing is abuse. They all apologize when it is all over bacause they are dependent on you , because as long as they have you they are sure to control someone and get what they want. I wish you the best of luck !
2006-08-09 17:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by mommy of 4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why would you forgive a guy for putting his hands on you. Sweetie you need to take a look around at the world, just because he says no other guys wants you doesn't mean it is true. And another thing, why would you want to have a child with him and let your child be exposed to the kind of treatmeant from him that you get. Who's to say he won't hit the child along with you. You need to kick his dumbass to the street and find a real man who will treat you right.
2006-08-09 16:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by *.:marie:.* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if your BF beats the baby the two of you have together because he got drunk and can also beat you up? If he can beat you, he will beat your baby too. Do you want that for your baby? As long as you stay, you want that for yourself as well. Go into hiding and fast. Leave as fast as you can. It's easier said than done I know but you DO deserve better and you WOULD find better if you ever became single long enough to allow it and yourself become YOU. You will do nothing to change your man but you can control yourself & your decisions.
2006-08-10 03:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by sweetypie9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave that dude. if you have a baby by this guy then your tied to him for life and he will beat you for the rest of your life. he thinks asking for forgiveness makes everything better and it gives him an excuse for beating you the next time. if you do have his baby, when it grows up, it will have chances of being violent towards people also, and i know you dont want that
2006-08-09 20:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by married1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't be fooled. Please. Your just going to get yourself hurt. Do you really wantto have a child with this man. If he hurts you now how do you think it's going to be when your pregnant. Think of the baby...he wont only be hurting you anymore. Try doing some stuff for yourself and make yourself happy. You'll realize that you don't need that kind of a man in your life. And whatever you do, don't give it up!! Your worth more than that!!
2006-08-09 16:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it's not a big deal. men always beat women under the influence of alcohol, make up sex of course can make the situation better.
but is he beating you very frequently!? if yes, as a life-long partner, horrible -_-" , "he says there is no other dudes that wants me", he's not respect you !!!
2006-08-09 16:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by Missy Jewels 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run for your life ! You do not want to have his child because:
1. he will be a bad role model for a father.
2. he could pass on his addiction (and other bad characteristics)to the child
3. your life could be at risk form the boyfriend and during pregnancy.
Pack your bags and leave. Find someone else. You deserve someone better....much better.
2006-08-09 17:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by The Guru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him fast and run. why would you want to have a baby by someone who beats you? Is that how you want to spend the rest of your life? You know once you have a kid he is alwasy going to have to be there one way or another..its all bad girl. He says there is no other dud that wants you because he wants you to have low self esteem so you'll stay with him.
2006-08-09 16:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your boyfriend is not just physically abusive, but mentally abusive as well. He wants you to believe that no other "dudes" want you so that he can control you and continue to abuse you. There is someone out there who will love and respect you. Obviously, it's not him. If I were you, I'd get out of that relationship sooner than later.
2006-08-09 16:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by raecheile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him i noits rong but their r much bettr guys thn tht the ones who dnt make u do things u dnt want and the ones tht dont hurt u fo rsex cuz him gettin drunk and apoligizing means he wants sex and if he aint gettin the easy way hes gonna get it the hard way .
2006-08-09 16:56:28 · answer #11 · answered by meche 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋