Ok i am not a shy person when around people i know like my friends. But, i am starting high school (oohh scaryyy!) in about a week and none of my friends are in the same lunch period that im in. Well the first day of school is only freshman but still if i dont know anybody from my other school in my lunch period how do i talk and sit with other people i dont know? Also i like meeting people but when i meet new people i dont know how to talk to them. If i dont know what your interests are i dont know how to talk to you. Could u please help me? Thanks!
2006-08-09 16:18:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well i'm also a very shy person when it comes to meeting new people i dont know but when i start conversations with new people i start by a "hi" or "how are you?" and then i start to think of things that they might be intrested in by their appearance or how they're dressed. Like for example a boy is sitting alone or asks to sit with you and he's wearing basketball shorts you ask if they like basketball or what kind of sports they like or if they play any sports or say someone sits down near you and they're alone but their appearance dosent give you any hits to what they might like ask small questions like what their favorite thing to do is or if they like sports. Hope this helps and good luck in high school its really cool. i'm a sophmore.
2006-08-09 16:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
EVERYONE HAS SOCIAL ANXIETY TO SOME DEGREE.
I have been on the planet for a lot longer, so I will share this with you....it's some tips for dealing with social anxiety. It's quite a rush to just go out there and face your fears.
Where to start? Try this:
At home, make a 5 question survey. Be it your own questions or trivial pursiut cards, and bring it with you to the cafeteria. Approach a group of people and ask if this seat is taken, or just assume it's available, whichever.
Introduce yourself and open with "can I get your thoughts on this....."
Ask the first question to each of the people there. Listen to their answers more than worrying about how nervous you feel or worrying about what they think you you....chances won't be thinking about you, until you give them a reason to.
Give them a reason to like you. Share your peosonality and all of the redeeming qualities that make you special.
Never talk bad about others behind their backs (no one will trust you) even if those around you do. Stick to topics that you have in common (at first) like school, homework, extracurricular activities, music, movies, video games, etc.
Admire and compliment at least every other person you encounter, and have something nice to say about everyone. People like that. People like to be asked for help or advice, too. Good ice breakers:
Have you seen....
Do you watch....
Have you read.....
What do you think of....
WHat's going on in .....(class)
Have you ever been to.....
What's (something) like.....
Who here is afraid of looking stupid when....
All people alive want to be liked, important, special, impressive, talented, cared about, trusted, validated, listened to, good enough, powerful, and respected.
They just have different ways of getting those needs met.
It helps to remember how many people exist on the planet. Every thought or feeling you have or had.....someone else out there has had or has that same feeling. The point is that you are not alone. Now narrow down that number of people on the planet, to eliminate all but those in your age group, at your school, and in your class. You have more than doubled your odds of finding someone with those thoughts in common.....
Some put others down to try to feel better. Others life people up and it raises them to their level. Spread the love and kindness, and it will alwayf come and find you in return.....
Everyone has social anxiety. Don't let it hide who you are.
I hope that helps.
2006-08-09 23:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look around for the other people who are sitting alone and look like they are feeling the same as you. Walk over and ask if you can sit beside them. Ask if they think the meal sucks. Be yourself. High school can be scary, but if you relax and remember you are just as good as anybody else, it will be fine! Don't give up! A smile you give to a frowning person is a way to make the world look better!
2006-08-09 23:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by stormchildforever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T be pushy... start off simply with 'Hey.. how's it going?' Or even mention how bad something is on the menu... and that you think you saw it in the road on the way to school... start small, if the other person wants to talk, they will reply and add something. Otherwise you could make a person never want to talk to you. Best bet is to find an empty table and wait for someone in your same boat to join you...
2006-08-09 23:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by The::Mega 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, lunch is near the middle of the day right? so you're gonna have some classes before hand. Talk to the people in the before classes by:
1) asking questions-about anything, that you see on their binders, where they got their clothes, what ur supposed to do... that kind of stuff
2) introduce yourself to people ur sitting next to and talk and get aquainted
at lunch find the closet friend u have, or someone you talked to the most in another class. the first day is always scary, and who knows? if you talk to more people... more people are going to want to sit next to u, so don't be scared, be brave and confident in yourself. :D
Good Luck
2006-08-09 23:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by Whompa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE WILL BE OTHERS ALONE AT THE LUNCH PERIOD ALSO...LOOK AROUND FOR SOMEONE... JUST SAY HI.. NONE OF MY FRIENDS HAVE THIS LUNCH PERIOD DO YOURS? MIGHT ASK WHERE THEY LIVE OR TELL THEM WHAT AREA YOU LIVE IN...YOULL GET THROUGH IT AND MAKE SOME MORE FRIENDS TOO..DONT SPOOK YOURSELF OUT ABOUT IT. OK GOOD LUCK AT YOUR SCHOOL
2006-08-09 23:26:02 · answer #6 · answered by flowerspirit2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make a freind in the class that you lunch period is so yall both can be together.
2006-08-09 23:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just put on a pleasant face, glance, smile once in a while, and let them talk or ask questions, answer them cordially then you're off to a good start. if they don't talk to you, neither would you anyway. so just be pleasant and appear open. someone will start eventually.
2006-08-09 23:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by maiax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like to talk about themselves. Ask general questions ( try not to ask questions that can be answered with yes or no). Try things like: where are you going to college? What is your favorite sport? Jazz like that. The way to discover their intrests is to ask.
2006-08-09 23:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it! try to start talking with someone that is in one of your classes first. that way, you can definetly talk about something... either your teacher or the homework you have... anything really- just to get into some conversation. don't be so nervous...
hope this helps!
2006-08-09 23:22:26 · answer #10 · answered by sumgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋