Hubby and I are having problems..haven't made love in weeks. Right now, I'm so in the mood. I've even made little hints: freshly shaved, brushing up against him in the bed, letting him get glimpses of me in the nude. He won't have a thing to do with it. Won't even touch me. I don't want to be too direct, but I need some now!!
2006-08-09 16:17:58 · 30 answers · asked by MaknMeCrzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he got used to all the rejection and now is reluctant to try. If you want it so bad, don't beat around the bush (excuse the pun). Start massaging him, then take off his clothes and get to work.
2006-08-09 16:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by jimjones3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said 5 days ago he wanted a divorce...I know we all have needs, but we all need to respect ourselves too. If that's where he's at and you're still interested in trying to have sex with him, how realistic are you being about your problems?
And, is it any surprise he won't even touch you, if this is how he feels? Short of physically forcing him, it sounds like you're going to have to wait longer than a few weeks.
I hate to toss the cold, harsh bucket of reality on this, I really do hurt in this for you, but you need to wake up and smell the coffee here.
2006-08-09 23:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about if you make it clear to him that you want to be close to him and see what he says and does. I bet you are afraid he will reject you?? It's possible he will, but someone has to go first, lol. If he tells you he isn't in the mood, say..that's fine, I am not putting myself in this situation anymore..when you decide you are ready let me know. Since he is acting this way, I wouldn't get too vulnerable if you know what I mean( could be humiliating for you if he would reject you). I think I would just talk to him about it and see what he says. Weeks without it, he has to be going crazy too, lol. Good luck to you!
2006-08-10 00:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not normal for a man not to want it, even if you are having problems
is he seeing someone? i can see how he might not have an interest in sex with you if that were the case
but if he is not, you might have to give him some friendly competition...trust me this works
get a dildo and just leave it in the bed under the sheets so when he gets in he will see it
if he says anything just say that you have to pleasure yourself because you certainly wasnt getting any from him
maybe that will move things along a little
if not, tie him up and have your way with him
2006-08-09 23:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by Willow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try losing a few pounds. Nothing turns off a man more than cottage cheese thighs.
2006-08-09 23:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then come right out and tell him what you want. Men don't like to play guessing games. He may be turned on by having his wife be the aggressor!
2006-08-09 23:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your married why not be subtle. If your reluctant with this then you guys are having communication issues and it probably affecting more then just your sex life. Or it could be that he is cheating on you and is sleeping with someone else.
2006-08-09 23:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by Imrickjamesbeotch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE DIRECT... We're guys, we're none too bright, and we can't take hints... Grab him by the junk, look deep in his eyes and tell him you like your men like you like your coffee... Hot, strong and on the kitchen table... If that doesn't work, he's impotent or cheating...
2006-08-09 23:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by HONORARIUS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age may be and issue, how old are you two?
you two may need a night out on the town and then some intimacy, just a suggestion . :)
2006-08-09 23:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by six7foru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen dear sex is crusial in a relationship... for the stresses to release and also for the fun and intimacy...so you need to stop hinting and ask him kindly why he doesn't want it ....no sane man can say no to sex something is up... maybe he cant get it up ...or feels he cant satisfy you ...talk about it communication is essential..alright...best wishes.
2006-08-09 23:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by Kastuskia007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋