I just had a terrible incident with a friends teenager Im still in shock. School is just starting and I bought a friends teenage girl some cloths and I am still in shock the way she acted. They were the lastest style t-shirts and the first thing she said was that they are to short. (well she needs to lose a few pounds) they were not short . She only looked at one shirt and stuffed it back in the bag. I have a daughter and she would have appreciated these so much! But I did it this for someone that would not have anything for school. This hurt my feelings so bad that it made me cry. I could not beleive she was making faces rolling her eyes and everything. I will NEVER buy this girl another thing. Am I wrong ??? She has two other sister that appreciated everything I did for them. But this one girl ruined the whole situation. I know all teenagers are not this way, I wonder why this one is so mean? I dont even want to be around this girl anymore. What should I DO?
2006-08-09 16:05:27 · 9 answers · asked by Confussed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It might have embaressed her.
And if she can't afford new school clothes then obviously she's living a hard life. That can mess a kid up.
And if your saying she needs to lose weight then you should have checked her size or invited her to go shopping with you so they would definately fit. Most likely your not the first one to think she needs to lose a few pounds, and she's most likely thought that herself so getting some shirts that are pretty and that she can't fit into probably made her feel awful.
2006-08-09 16:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She ..since you said could loose a few pounds probably has low self-esteem and is self conscious ... maybe if you would of wanted a better reaction maybe you should have consulted her in the process..you know how teens can be completely unpredictable, spontaneously changing all their tastes, hormones changing and all that jazz.... don't take it personally..she probably at the time didn't realize what you were doing for her ... or it was just a bad day or she was on her period.etc the possibilities are endless....when people **** on you pardon my term don't mind them they will eventually come to realize what they did. Just give it some time...don't bother with her for a while and maybe when she seems more sensible you could talk to her about it. cause keeping it in wont be any better for you... especially if your around each other at times. you know what i mean..well best of luck!!!
2006-08-09 16:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Kastuskia007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Melanie3x! I don't think that disrespect is the right word here. It can't be hard taking hand-outs. What would have been a better thing to do, what to ask her is you could take her shopping. Let her pick out a few things herself. I think you need to just forget about her reaction and don't take it personal. I am sure she is dealing with alot and doesn't need someone else adding to it. What you did was very nice and thoughtful. Her reaction is really embarrassment and pride coming out. I am sure she didn't mean to be mean.
2006-08-09 16:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Humanity will always disappoint you.
You are not wrong at all;You were expecting a positive reaction from her;because you were doing an act of kindness. In my opinion she owe you an apology; what an ungrateful Brat; do not let her get you down; you're a nice lady, trying to do the right thing.
take care and God bless you.
2006-08-09 17:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by COCO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a pain in the ***! you know, in your life youre going to find people like her, they dont really know the value of things, i mean, even if this clothes where ugly or whatever, she must have been really thankful for them. Dont let this girl make you feel down. Believe in Karma.
2006-08-09 16:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by CaRo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like someone needs a good smack upside the head to me
2006-08-09 16:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
punch her in the face
2006-08-09 16:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the stuff back and give it to someone that will appreciate it.
2006-08-09 16:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by terrible-d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not even bother. evidently this kid do not have any class
2006-08-09 16:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by leyte6519 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋