Should I or should i not???

Question

Come out of the closet. why or why not?

i forgot to say something. some of my friends are totally anti-gay, and i grew up in a really, really, really strong christian environment.

also the anti-gay friends are really great friends except for the fact that they are anti-gay.

Answer 1

yeah be true to your self and others unless your not sure about it only if ur positive about it,,,,that way u will know thta you have nothing to hide

Answer 2

I understand your not wanting to take the Chance of losing friends or family but bottom line you are still the same person inside and out that they know . You make the same jokes cry at the same movies and do everything else the same. So why should it make the difference by who you sleep with. The religion argument doesn't make sense ( Have any of them slept with anyone they are not married to? that's a no no also or cheated someone in a business deal?) I believe that God creates everyone and that you are created gay not somewhere along the line decide that hay that sounds fun I want to have my rights curbed and be looked Down on they are your friends and family they want you to be happy if not then they really don't care for you as much as they say . You might also be able to show them that being gay isn't what they think and give them new insight also.

Answer 3

weigh the pros and cons based on your current situation... I believe eventually it is in every homosexuals best intrest to come out... Having to live a life of constant lies will only do more damage to those you love and yourself in the long run the actually coming out will... You owe nobody in this world anything... nobody that is but yourself... if you cant love yourself enough to allow yourself the right to be known for you and not what everyone wants you to be... then you will never be able to happy or happy as you could be...

after reading your add on I wanted to also add... my whole family is old school pentecostal... women dont wear pants dont cut their hair no make up no jewlery other then a wedding ring no tv ect ect ect... when I finally had enough, got tired of trying to make everyone else happy while neglecting my own needs I made the decision to be me... Not to force my beliefs on anyone... or even to encourage them... not to use them as a weapon to make them uncomfortable.. Humans from all walks of life have to make sacrifices and risks in the name of freedom, happiness, wealth ect.. some are worth making and some are not... think of it this way... if you live to be 80 and have lived those 80 yrs in complete dishonesty and not a soul on earth knows the real you... can you imagine how lonely you will be? In reality that can happen long before 80... I was in my mid 20's when it begin to destroy every aspect of my life.... for me it wasnt really a choice anymore... it was do or die..... I just couldnt take it any longer

Answer 4

no i am sorry but NO u live in an enviroment whrere ppl are really ANTI gay so i say u should wait or just telll the people you think will might or kinda understand coming out of the closet is just gonna creat a secne and pain i am sorry i know its hard to conceal your true identity but sometimes u have to do it

Answer 5

You and only you can decide what is right for you . Ultimately it will be up to you , But it is hard to deny who and what you are . Those great friends you are talking about will still be there if they are truly your friends and really love you . Friendship , true friendship knows no boundaries and is not unforgiving always supportive and caring . A true friend will always stand beside you no matter what . Good luck on your decision .

Answer 6

Your friends, if they are really friends; should remain loyal. If not; then they are not really friends. I'm not crazy about gays but if that is what you are doing; then do it in the open. Just remember that most people don't understand and will give you a hard time.
Good Luck!

Answer 7

You really haven't given us enough information to give you a solid answer. Why not do some reading on your own. I'll start you out with the link below, the coming out resources of the Human Rights Campaign.

Answer 8

First off, if the friend(s) you come out to can't accept you for who you are then they are not your friend(s) and you really don't need them.

In my humble opinion, coming out should be done when YOU are comfortable enough with who you are coming out to. For me the biggest hurdle was coming out to my dad. When he knew all along. His statement to me before I ever said anything to him was "There are a lot of women who could love you. Please, leave the boys alone." and that was all that was said for 3 years. Then one day he called me after he had met and come to love my partner as part of the family and asked "Are you happy? Because son, that is really the only thing a parent can hope for their children and if you are happy that is all that counts and I love you son." Dad's been gone for around 15 years now and I really miss him. I Cherish those words and take them with me to my grave. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 9

Personally, I'd only come out if you had a good friend to lean on for support, or even a boyfriend. If family and friends turn their back on you and show their true colors, you have at least one person

Answer 10

Yes do it. It is such a relief that you can say those words and then you can be true to yourself. It took me ten years to say it but now I am so much better. I feel that I am my true self now and I feel empowered.

Yes I did cop a bit of flack, especially from my family, but 6 months later all was hunky dory. I think it was more a fact that I kept it secret from them .

Answer 11

Be true to yourself and if you take the risk of coming out, you may find out who your true friends are. I personally thought it was worth it. To each his own though. I will not date men who are not out of the closet, because there is never enough room for 2 of us in there!