He's 15 and his mom is only 34. She doesn't take her meds. He's the middle son and always being picked on usually by her. Right now she's threatening to "cut his mop" and is not allowing him to watch tv, talk on the phone, go on the computer, play his guitar (he's in a band) , play video games. She insists that he's "ruining" the couch by sleeping on it and won't even let him do work around the house to earn phone time. He is miserably unhappy. The dad allows the mom to get away with this and the older brother just laughs and goes along with the mom. What can he possibly do to deal with such an unreasonable mother? She also threatens to send him to juvenile hall as a runaway (because he's sneaked out at night to see my daughter). He is very unhappy and I am not sure what to suggest. I really like him, and my daughter is really sad for him.Oh,and she has hit him before and doesn' t listen to reason.
2006-08-09 15:32:02 · 3 answers · asked by 60s Chick 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am feeling your pain. I spent many years dealing with a fellow that had this disorder, primarily because I felt bad for the family.
At the end of the day, there is no happy ending. She will be on, then off, meds; be wonderful, then terrible; be abusive, then loving. It's all quite sad.
I hate to be a master of the obvious, but the factors that give rise to the bipolar personality are often genetic. If your daughter is serious about this fellow, and they are making long-term plans,
you may be dealing with this disorder somewhat closer to home.
It's time to display an incredible amount of wisdom here, Mom.
Their family dynamics are under the sanctity of state and federal law unless physical abuse is taking place. You seem like a very caring person. Protect your heart, and the heart of your daughter's, in this very volatile situation over which you have little or no control.
2006-08-11 10:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Elwood Blues 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is he really just an innocent ? he could be, but also, where are you getting most of your info from ? he snuck out at least once, i would take away things he wanted to do if he was mine, for that.if he is rebeling & won't respect his parent's authority , he has brought much of this on himself.if the mother has personal issues they will just magnify his disobedience. maybe a heart to heart between him & mom would help, some true apologies ,and toe the line & don't cause waves,. ... even if his mom is unreasonable, he has little choice but to be as good as possible. any thing else will make things worse...... also , if it was an open hand , disiplinary 'hit', the dept. of social services will not move him
2006-08-09 23:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has hit him he has every right to go to the police or social service. Perhaps they can remove him from the home. He could also try talking to his father about what is going on.
2006-08-09 22:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋