My fiance's mother underminds my every move.
I took her to the grocery store earlier and I ran into an old school mate who happend to be guy we spoke and that was all teased about the old days and stuff, but when I caught up with her she was snarling at me and muttering mean things about me she even told the cashier to ring up her groceries fast so that the slut with her could take her home. I was horrified and so embarressed this isnt the first time shes been mean to me like this. I never tell my boyfriend because I dont want any trouble to start, but she constantly hurts my feelings especially when she comes over while hes away on business she bosses me around but in front of him shes sooo nice to me sometimes I just wish the lady would just kick the bucket, but thats mean so I dont know what to do... I just want to be with her son not her, but shes always lurking finding ways to insult me.. how can I cope?
2006-08-09 15:28:55 · 10 answers · asked by sweetee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the next time she starts mouthing off to you in your own home - go to the door and tell her to go home.
The next time she insults you in public in front of others --- smile sweetly and tell them in a very polite manner that she's in the early stages of Alzheimer's. Be gracious and say "come along mom...you have pills to take." Let her know you aren't going to tolerate her bad behavior and you are capable of standing up to her.
And when your fiance is around be sweet to her just like she is to you!!
2006-08-09 15:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in for a life of hurt feelings if this is how your future mother-in-law treats you now. There will always be some awkardness whether you tell your fiance or not and especially if you tell him and does nothing or never stands up for you.
You could also confront her and ask her why she hates you so much, but either way it's not a easy situation to deal with.
I hated my in-laws and I wish I would have stopped dating my ex-husband when I met his family, because they never accepted me and I always felt out of place with them.
I would really think hard about this before you marry him because the stress you feeling now about her willl only build up and get worse over time. Just remember: Not only do you marry your fiance, but you also marry his family!
2006-08-09 15:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by Claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him! He probably loves his mother and won't appreciate being put in a position to choose between you or his mom. As for his mother, stop taking her to the store, or anywhere else, until she learns to be civil and polite to you. When your boyfriend is away you needn't see her and should make yourself unavailable. It is obvious that the woman has no manners and no class so you should avoid her whenever possible. Furthermore, under no circumstance allow her to boss you around. Do not get into an argument with her, just let her rant on and then continue doing things as you see fit.
2006-08-09 15:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Celeste A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, per chance you're able to confer inclusive of your fiance about it, tell him the way you sense and per chance it can be a lot less awkward for you and her if he talked to her and let her recognize? If no longer then i imagine attempting to no longer be too blunt may be the suited way, per chance confer with her in inner most, shes had a minimum of one baby so she could keep in mind that dealing with being pregnant is an particularly stressfull time, tell her you may choose you fiance in there to assist you as this can make you more effective comofrtable, attraction to her adventure once you tell her that its an particularly inner most element of provide start and also you favor to percentage it inclusive of your fiance and under no circumstances his mum. If this fails tell her thats it is your infant in spite of everything so it truly is going to be your selection and about what is going to make it more effective smooth/a lot less confusing for you, she may be fairly harm/dissapointed no count number what, you won't be able to really stay away from this, merely attempt to be tender yet problem-free. If all else fails! in case you do not choose her in there she wont be allowed besides as its your infant, so I wouldnt problem too a lot as you receives your way contained in the top no count number what, merely concentration on the large day! also, you stated your fiance replaced into harm? hes no longer the only having the newborn, nor has he ever, or will he ever ought to! so he doesnt reall understand, nor can he sympathise!
2016-11-23 18:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T TELL HIM. For one thing, he probably won't believe you. And will it comes down to it, most men will always take mama's side, and at the VERY LEAST, resent you. If you tell him, it might appear to him that you are just trying to start trouble, because his "wonderful, sweet, loving mother" would NEVER be capable of such bad behavior!!
2006-08-09 15:36:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isnt a nice way or conciderate way to tell someone that there mom is evil...lol invest in a video camera or recorder. he prob wont believe it unless he sees it with his own eyes. then pop that tape in the vcr or dvd with both of them in there and see what she has to say. i bet things will change. lol i would love to see the look on her face and hear her explaination. try it !!
2006-08-09 15:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by bigmommy240 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; don't tell him. Regardless; it is his mother. Treat her with kindness. Hopefully she will come around. Never try to let her son hear of this. He may not take it very well.
2006-08-09 15:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by mary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the club...many mother inlaws are the worst people in the world..my mother is terrible to my husband and his mother at me...all you can do is ask him if he cares more about his mom or you..then tell him what you have been feeling latly..i know you won't sound inconsiderate.
remember your not getting married with his family ..just him..so after wards you can say what ever you want to her even right now :) only if he isn't that attached to her :)
2006-08-09 15:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by lifeskills13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a voice recorder and tape some of teh stuff she days and play it back to the hubby to be...
2006-08-09 15:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by Gosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm you have it easy compared to me... my mother-in-law was insisting going on my honeymoon.. she truly hates me but its more of a racist thing than anything...
Im mixed blk and white and her son is white...
she doesnt even acknowledge me or my unborn baby...
its ok life goes on I just learned to blank her out.. who is Sheryl Demakis??
I dont know..lol
2006-08-09 15:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by Giggagirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋