the things i do and the things i feel seem to be on the surface a lot of the time, even when i get upset there is a deeper part of me that seems not to care. however i have a suspicion that i am burying my real feelings, because sometimes, unexpectedly and scarily they come out, but not for long before i bury them again. how do I become a 'real' person? is it possible to 'clean yourself out' emotionally and be true. i am not intentionally like this.
2006-08-09 15:22:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
ahh... why does that sound so much like me?
I'm not quite sure but when I try to look at our position from a third person's point of view, I say the best way to become a "real" person is to let our emotions out whenever we feel them (even if it is just a little), rather than burying it. I tend to not care about a whole lot and people think I'm "unique" because I am indifferent about life. Sorry kido, I wasn't of much help.
2006-08-09 15:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by young_one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a child and well into adulthood (I'm 51) I had the sensation that there was no actual 'me'. Sure, I had free will and all that, but there was always a sensation of watching things happen to 'myself' while being quite disinvolved. Even something involving knocking up against reality in a big way, there would be a sense of watching it all happen in a disconnected kind of way. There is a part of the brain which reinforces the sense of 'self' and maybe it develops as you age, I don't know. Bear in mind though that the word 'person' comes from the Greek 'persona' (='mask'). I doubt if there really is a tiny, indivisible self at the centre of it all; I don't think you could ever reach it. It implies the sort of thinking of the 17th century, a self inside a self inside a self inside... and they actually thought this was a religious mystery! If you want comfort that 'you' will not die, that you somehow persist outside the body (implying that you are not the body), think of a sea of consciousness, infinite or rather not in space. Now and again waves break free of the sea and hang for a moment, separate from the whole. Each one is a life. The droplet falls back into the sea and is none the worse for it, but as an individual thing it doesn't exist anymore. Sooo... you die, but really you can't ever die, and no, there is no real self. You have a gift. Just don't let it get to you; enjoy life and be glad for the song has no ending. Love, Clearlight
2006-08-09 16:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by clearlight_justletgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to back in the day. I never really had friends when I was a child. I could not socialise, was picked on at school and made to feel that I would never have a girldfriend.
Part of this was due to the after effects of Spiritualist healing when I was 7.
I am OK now. I had found someone to love and who loved me in return, though it did not last. I have many, many friends now. I feel more than real sometimes.
2006-08-09 18:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by waycyber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way when I was young. Life's harsh realities have a way of reminding you that this life is very real. A few close calls with death will reinforce it, too. Expressing your feelings to someone close to you who understands is a pretty important thing to keep you on course. Feelings are a part of how you think which is, in part, based on your beliefs. If you're not happy with these, you have the power to change them. Reading this book will help those thoughts and beliefs: "The Feeling Good Handbook" by David Burns, MD. It really changed my life for the better. Read more here:
http://www.geocities.com/seabulls69/AntidepressantThatWorks.html
'nuff said?
2006-08-09 15:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Peachy® 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in hassle-free terms youth sense this sort. this is using the fact the accepted public of their peer team is superficial and ruled by utilising self-interest. that's because of the fact they're anxiously attempting to locate some psychological footing as new adults, and this takes value of their psyche. As you advance older, your peer team will develop into older too, and the folk you carry out with will start to advance some attitude and wisdom ... and you will no longer sense so remoted.
2016-09-29 02:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by wichern 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I feel as if everyone else is not a real person
2006-08-09 17:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After just waking up
2006-08-11 21:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are real, think with your head not your heart, people will lie to you.
2006-08-13 13:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes sometimes when iam in trouble,lonely...etc...
2006-08-09 16:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by hisahito 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do when i feel like why was i created i feel like im invisble
2006-08-09 15:26:47 · answer #10 · answered by Oscar b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋