Can gayness be cured?

Question

Well my son is 9 years old and he told me he was gay. I know its a very young age! My freinds said that I will have him in my householde for 8 years and during those 8 years I can cure him. They say I can make him as manly as possible. I hope he can be cured,because I don't want a gay child. What are the things I can do to cure him?

Answer 1

Being gay is not an illness, and therefore it can't be 'cured'.Trying to make him as 'manly' as possible will only make him miserable and depressed. If you love your son, accept him as he is and don't try to change him. He might try to act different to please you, but he won't feel differently.

Answer 2

Gayness is not an illness. Had you gone to a medical doctor a psychologist or psychiatrist instead of Yahoo, you'd know that. I suspect you know that already. A child at the age of 9 probably has no real idea whether or not he is gay. But if he is, he is, and you should spend the next few year finding peace with it. Your son deserves your love, no matter what his orientation.

And where did you get the impression that a gay man can't be manly?

Actually before I spend any more time here on a serious answer, I've checked your profile. In that you just logged on today and never answered a question or asked any other, I assume you're just another hateful gay-baiting son of a gun.

Answer 3

No joke I knew I was gay when I was five. I used to get into all kinds of trouble. well not really. But a lot of show me this I'll show you that stuff. I just knew I liked boys and was very curious about them. Once I was twelve or so..if ya know what I mean, then I really knew. I wish I could have told somebody instead of feelin like a freak all those years. All my friends thought that I was straight. I told them after high school. Most were suprised, some werent. Just tell him this is serious. Let him know the consequences of telling people that. But that he should always feel free to tell you things . There never would have been a way to make me straight.... I look at a girl like I look at a nice car. It's really beautiful and I would hang around it, but i sure would never have sex with it. It just doesnt work that way. I look at a girl and feel nothing...but if some good lookin guy is staring at me..i get all freaky all over and nervous and turned on and whatever. We're just hardwired that way. Some people feel the same way about both sexes. oh well you'll see.
I guess asking this question is a good step for ya. But if this is the way he is gonna go..you got a long ride ahead of you if dont stop worring about it and just let it happen. WHat if he absolutely hated broccolli how could you make him like it? So if it's hard to force some one to like a food, imagine trying to change someone how they feel about sex. Good luck and feel free to ask more questions here.

Answer 4

Nope, there is no cure or psychological treatment available today to do what you want, and many that claim to only add to the personal stress of the person being "cured". And shame on you for wanting to do this! This is his life and he can live it how he wants to. You have no right to make any sort of decision like this for him. If you love him you should support who he is, not try to change him. That will add the same kind of stress I mentioned before.

That said, he is 9 and probably doesn't know what gay is. However, "making" him manly will just make him a manly gay man if he is indeed gay.

Answer 5

Ok well that is hard news to take from someone so young. I felt lesbian at the age of 12 but didn't really feel it until I was 21 and came out.

Just give him some time. He may be confused about things. The worst thing you can do it push him to be manly. It doesn't work and can only make things worse.

Gayness is not a disease - it can't be cured. Studies have found that it is in the genes. Not to say anyone else in your family is gay. I know of someone who has a lesbian mother and she is as straight as.

Answer 6

As a parent, do you want your child to be happy? There are very severe risks that the reparative therapy people don't want to tell you about: by attempting to "cure" your child, you will risk subjecting them to extreme psychological harm, up to and including suicide. Weigh that against the fact that there are no hard statistics on "success" rates, nor in fact a standard definition of "success". For a nine year old, that does sound pretty early. As such, it might actually be something he'll grow out of on his own, but maybe not. If he is actually gay, he will always be gay. Let him grow up and decide if he wants to not-act on it. But if you start trying to "cure" him now, you're only going to screw him up, and when he eventually realizes that's what you've done there's a pretty good chance he'll leave and never want to see you again.

Answer 7

I know no parent would ask God for a gay child, but the idea of trying to "cure" him seems a little damaging. I almost think that he is just to young to really know, but I myself am not gay, I have heard about a lot of people coming out at an early age and he might be one of them. I think in my opinion that your trying to cure him is not a good idea. Try to make him as well rounded as possible, dont force anything on him. It could backfire.

Answer 8

Yes and No. You can try to change him and influence him very easily and eventually you might can convince him of your belief that homosexuality is wrong. This could work, but you also run the risk of pushing him away. If you push him away, when he can leave your household, he will leave running. Not only could you risk him leaving your life, but you could damage him psychologically and he may never live a "normal" life. So would you rather a gay child or a child who rejects you.


Besides, he's 9. At least let him go through puberty before you assume he's set in his ways. As cliche as it sounds, it may actually be just a phase.

Answer 9

True gayness cannot be changed. most people have more than a Little Bi-sexuality in their makeup if they are honest with themselves.
most people when puberty hits Will have their first experience with someone of their own gender. because they have the same organs. If the person has a good experience with it they may think they are gay. however time and curiosity may change that view. If he has been masturbating and you have been telling him that's its wrong or sinful then he will rebel and join in homosexual practices more easily.
Only the most hardcore gay people. Those that have had bad experiences with sex from the opposite sex competely refuse to have anymore sex with any but there own gender. otherwise they will have the occansanl bout with the opposite sex. or even get married if they are upfront as to their preferences and the person is willing to put up with the condition and Love the person not the act.

Answer 10

You can't cure gayness, but you can make your child feel horrible about himself by trying to cure his gayness. You can also drive him away from you and make him feel as though he can't tell you anything about himself or his life by trying to cure it. I know many gay people whose parents tried to "cure" them, and all it did was make them feel guilty, depressed, and unloved.

Whether you want a gay child or not, you have one. Try to accept him for who he is, not for who you want him to be. Remember that he was born a gay boy, and he is same little kid as he was before he told you he was gay. I know you love him, because he's your son, but part of that love has to be realizing that he is his own person, and he won't be exactly as you want him to be all the time. I hope you can work through your fear and be the great mother I know you were before you found all this out!

Answer 11

You can't "cure" gayness, it isn't a disease, it's who he is. He's 9 years old, maybe he is not, odds are he saw something on tv, or heard somebody say something, but even if he is what will it really change? You seem to think gay men are weak, and trust me sugar, the majority are not. I know lots of gay men who, from first glance, you wouldn't even know were gay.
I would say "it's people like you" but that's rude, so I'll try reason. Would it really be so bad if your son was gay? Seriously. Wait until he's older, then see what he says.