i am 14 years old me and my bf and ready 2 have sex and im wonderin does it hurt and will i bleed?

Question

please help

Answer 1

ahh.. stop tellin her she's too young... ur not her and u dont understand how she feels, just answer her question...

it might hurt and/or bleed.. it depends on how tight u are and how wet...just relax if ur nervous ur muscles will tense up and make it more painful

Answer 2

Honey, you have so much time ahead of you. Tell your b/f
that you aren't ready and if he's going to pressure you, you
won't see him anymore. There's no reason why you have to
have sex so soon. You need to be sure you are ready. You need
to be on birth control. Use condoms, etc. You shouldn't have to
think about that stuff right now. Too complicated. Let me warm you that after your relationship moves into being a sexual one-
that's all you do almost!!

So, think good and long about this. I didn't have sex until I was
almost 20- not that I didn't have plenty of opportunities, I just
wanted to choose the right time and person. I ended up marrying
the man I first had sex with. And I never regretted it. Had my first child at 30.

You have a long life ahead of you. Finish HS, go to college- have
a fulfilling career and when you're 30 start thinking about settling down and babies. You'll have a good foundation and some $$ in the bank. Cause babies are expensive!

Answer 3

What hurts is that you think sex is above love. Many guys say things to pressure girls into having sex. And I mean they will try and say anything to make out, but understand that if the guy really loves you he will wait till he can financially afford a child. Will your bf give you a home to raise your child? Will he hold on to a good job? Can he give you everything(REALLY) your heart desires? Do you want your child to have a good education, so that he/she can have a good or better life? Can you look into your child eyes and honestly tell them that you don't know where their father is? Can you (by yourself; not your parents) take care of your child, if he runs out on you? Guys too young don't have the maturity to handle a baby, and they get scared and leave. Ask yourself many question like these, and give or find some truthful answers. Be honest. Talk to your mom or any woman counselor before you take such a big step. What hurts is physical, but the emotional hurt will be a hundred time more painful. Many people will tell you that you don't need a paper to prove your relationship, but a marriage paper will get you legal protection if things should go wrong. Like Ziggy's Law, you know, if anything can go wrong, it will. So Please Please be more mature and wait till your at least finished with high school, or college, better yet. Make your first time something you will never regret and will always remember together. Like a romantic honeymoon, overlooking a beautiful vista, as the sun sets and a cool breeze that touches your soul with promises of a good relationship with the man that will do everything to make you his queen and companion for life.

Answer 4

First off I don't think anyone has the right to judge you on what you want to do with your body. I know girls that hit puberty at 11 and look more womanly than I do at 14... It hurts, especially if you've never had anything enter you before. It may bleed. That all depends on sizes, *ahem,* and how naturally loose you are (which shouldn't be too loose if you're a virgin). Just use a towel underneath so that you don't get blood on anything and make sure you use a condom!!

Answer 5

I guess you are ready for the accidents that can happen also like if that condom breaks. Lets see what can happen , If he isint a virgin its possible you can get some disease like hepries which is disgusting and it never goes away, you can get HIV and the it turns to AIDS and will kill you, what about a baby, If you were to God forbid get pregnant could you financialy support and provide for that child or do you really want to be on welfare?? I dont think you are ready for what comes along with sex. How whould you feel if your 14 year old daughter came to you and said she was ready for sex? youd probably fall out. Think about what you are doing and make the right choices or it could cost you your teenage years!!!!

Answer 6

You're 14 and ready to have sex??? I urge you to reconsider this. This decision is based on maturity, love and mutual respect for one another.
Are you ready to be a mother at 14???

I don't know your situation, but can't help to think a 14 year old is actually "ready" for sex.

Yes, it hurts - yes, you will bleed. I remained a virgin until I was 23 with no regrets whatsoever. I had many opportunities prior to this and chose to stay celibate. My husband was "my first".

PLEASE don't do this until you are absolutely ready. I don't think you are! I care and hate to see you get hurt. You are SO young and I'm afraid it will only last a short time before you might lose this b/f. Is he, by chance, telling you "I love you and if you loved me you'll have sex with me"??? Think it over, honey!

If you DO decide to have sex - PLEASE USE PROTECTION!!!!! Protect yourself against diseases and pregnancy.

Answer 7

it will hurt the first time and the bleeding is depending on your body and with you being 14 most likely you will bleed. and consider this.most guys will say anything to get the girl into bed. don't do it just because you think you want to. tell him that your not ready and if he pressures you then he isn't worth it cause he is only after sex. and you will feel better if you wait till your older and know that he loves you and you love him not no puppy love or crush. when you do meet your true love you will enjoy the sex so much better if you wait. don't waste your life for a boy who may not respect you after you do it with him. cause if you break up then he may tell his friends that your "easy". and that will be worse than any first time sex. please wait your life is just begining.

Answer 8

Listen girl I know all about having sex to young I am 20 years old with a three year old now I wish I had waited because I am still in high school. Girl take it from me start your life first finish school, get a job and think about yourself not anyone else. Just because you and your b/f think your ready your not. Live your life happy and free. please think long and hard before making up your mind for sure. You should put your focus on schooling not having sex.

hold your head up high and walk tall in life. DON'T have sex so young.

Answer 9

14 is too young. and asking shows u r not ready. when time time and the person are right you'll know it. when the time is right, the hurting and the bleeding are individual things and also depend on the patience of the guy to work with you. the towel is a good idea. also a condom(besides being a must) helps slide, and KY

Answer 10

Don't sell yourself cheaply to some guy at 14. What's going to happen when you get a little older and tell the man you want to marry that, well, when I was 14, there was this guy,...How could he ever trust a woman who has so little regard for her own body.


If you insist on it, yes, if you are a virgin, it does hurt a little bit, not a lot,and you do bleed, so put a thick towel underneath you.

That's the facts, but please, for your own sake reconsider. Once it's gone, it's gone, and you can never get it back.

Answer 11

your 14 ? don't do it , respect your self and your body and if your guy respects you then he can wait a few more years. You are just 2 young ...my grand-mom got married at 14 and had her first kid at 15. I know lots of people will probably tell you don't do it because your too young but that's only part of it. Trust me guys will respect you more if your a virgin plus when you start having sex you should be prepared for what can happen. You can get pregnant get and STD or just get hurt emotionally.