I never thought it would come to this but my wife and I have been married going on 11 yrs. and I just cant deal with her anymore. We have 3 kids that I love to pieces and have tried to hold out as long as I can just for their benifit but I cant go on any longer. I wont poor you with details because I know it goes both ways. I just am not attracted to her anymore because she has just let herself go and doesnt care anymore how she looks plus she cant keep a job to help out with bills and doesnt care about helping out around the house since she doesnt work. How much does a divorce cost someone and what happens to the kids? I know each state is different but I was just wondering? Thanks
2006-08-09 13:43:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most states are basically the same, except a community property state. You can hire an atty for about 700 an hour or do it yourself for a whole lot less. Once you file for it or even before but once you let your wife know of your intentions and hopefully she is still talking to you. You can hire a paralegal to help with all of this, but most of all if you two can sit down civilally and work out all details perhaps with the paralegal and fill out all forms. This will save you time and money and the judges love it. Now unless you have your wife on documented charges of either child or drug charges, mom will become primary resident custodian of the children with child support, the house, and possible spousal support, all based on state laws. You will get state mandated visitation rights. If you cant sit with her and divide up the other marital assets then the court will as equally as possible. Once the court date is set and you two appear, the judge will render his decision and about 30 days later your divorce will be final with only child custody and support the only things that can be modified after final divorce. Now if she contests it and you still want it,then its a whole nother ball game but wont go into it here. Good luck
2006-08-09 13:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I don't understand men like you.When you first meet your woman, your all into her, but let her have kids, and of course having children totally destroys some woman's body.Even though you said she does not work, raising three children is a full-time job.I noticed you did not say how old the kids were.Do you think your all that and a bucket of chicken? If you have only been married for a short time in my book.Let me tell you, it takes a large amount of energy to care for three small kids, I can understand why your wife let herself go, she does not have the energy to do anything, much less cater to a big baby! She has enough to deal with on her plate! And as the so called Male, what does she think of this idea that you have floating around in your little mind? Real men, don't ask for info on divorce through the internet!
2006-08-09 20:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by Marna S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go down and file papers and contact a divorce attorney, which would probably will be helpful in this instance because depending on the state, she might try to get alimony from you because she dosn't have a job. A divorce can cost a little or a lot, depending on if you use an attorney or not. If you have children, it also gets a little more complicated, and could be more costly. Why dosn't she have a job?
2006-08-09 20:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by Rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had a quarter for every time I heard a guy say he didn't love his wife anymore because she's now FAT (ie...let herself go) I'd be rich!
Honestly, how piggish of you. Have you ever made your wife feel good about herself, or do you put her down all the time?
If that's the case, no wonder she doesn't care.
You two need to sit down with a councelor and work things out. Sounds like there's plenty going on that you're not seeing. A lot of women, when depressed, will act like your wife is acting. Something's going on and it's up to you to get YOU and your wife to counceling and get your wife to a dr. for a physical to see what's going on with her. And it wouldn't hurt you either to do the same.
If you really care for your family, then at least try.
2006-08-09 21:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by Voice 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude i got a phone # you can call it is
1800 e-wahhhhh
my god man quit the whineing
grow up divorce is not the answer your looking for an easy way out go to a marriage counsler tell her to get a grip also
sounds like the both of ya have gone off the deep end
you love her she loves you you love your childern try the above # you just might stay married
2006-08-09 20:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a lawyer, but first try talking with her, communication sometimes helps. let her know how you feel and see if you can come to some kind of understanding for the kids sake. good luck.
2006-08-09 20:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anna Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by you both going to a marriage counselor. Divorce is not the answer.
2006-08-09 20:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a lawyer! He will guide you threw the rest. Talk with more than one is my advise. good luck.
2006-08-09 20:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by Rat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hire a detective to find out bad things about her first. If he fails, you're going to be in a hell of a lot of child support.
2006-08-09 20:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by choyryu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋