the guy i am dating called me a friend he tells his friends and family that i am just a friend is it right for me to be mad
2006-08-09 13:37:57 · 30 answers · asked by cheridan 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
It depends, you didn't tell us how long you’ve been dating. two or three times? If so, then you are jumping the gun. If longer, then you need to define your relationship and make sure that he's in the same page. Because he said he was your friend, it doesn't mean that he doesn't want you as his gf, it may mean that he doesn't want to jump the gun himself, especially if he's not sure about your feeling towards him.
Look, the bottom line is that this is something that is dumb to get mad about. On the positive side, this is just something that indicates that you both need to sit down and have a sincere conversation regarding where you both are at on the road to a serious relationship.
But be careful how you approach him, if you approach him the wrong way, accusing him of not caring enough for you or other dumb accusations, then you may make him wonder if you are right for him. Think about it, this is a small obstacle on the road to a long term relationship and you are already having communications problems? I can only imagine how you'll react about something more serious, Which I’m sure you both will encounter sooner or later. If I wonder that, I'm sure that he may end up wondering the same sooner or later. I'm not telling you to let it go, just to relax and to stop over reacting and talk to him. Good luck!
2006-08-09 14:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a woman, I believe you deserve respect. If you two have not previously discussed your relationship parameters and you feel he is shortchanging you as a person, and a woman he is intimate with, you will need to ask him some questions. Be real in relationships. Tell the person how you feel, and also be free to establish boundaries that make you comfortable. If you are intimate, and are feeling like he is not proud to be with you, I would show him the door. Men that act like that (unless it is a misunderstanding) generally are looking only for sex. Not to be generalizing, but if you tell him how you feel, and he responds in a way that hurts your feelings, then you be the judge of how you want men to treat you. Also, having been around the block a few times, I might give you a gentle reminder that being "mad" at someone for slighting you is the direct result of hurt feelings. Being "mad" is not a solution for you, and it is never a healthy way to conduct any relationship. Self respect dictates that allowing that kind of thing into your life at a young age is a dangerous way to start out with men. Please be good to yourself and don't allow anyone to treat you in ways that don't serve you.
I hope this helps, I am assuming that you are a younger lady, correct?
2006-08-09 13:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by Life's a journey.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so your dating him but is he dating you? Clearly you are not looking at the relationship in the same way as he is, you want a commitment and he may not or he may just be completely oblivious to how his lack of acknowledgment of your place in his life hurts you. Best solution: you two need to sit down and have the talk about what is going on in your relationship and where do you stand. He he can't commit or if you two don't agree on the terms then perhaps it's time to find a new guy.
2006-08-09 13:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're just dating. You are not engaged. A friend is ok to be called. It would have been better if he had added girl- or best- or even special to the beginning of it, but it's not worth being mad at him over.
Maybe you should ask him (in private) how he feels about you. Get this issue out there, talk about it, get over it and move on.
2006-08-09 13:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by aprilc232 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is trying to give you a hint that he's not that interested in a real relationship.
Or maybe he is afraid to put too much pressure on the relationship and that is his way of playing it safe and not pressuring you.
Has he called you his girlfriend when you are alone? Have you told him it bothers you?
He can't fix it if he doesn't know....just be honest with him if you care about him instead of being mad at him.
Good Luck
2006-08-09 14:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong to be mad at him. When we date people we have to always start out as friends and move up to a higher stage later. If we aren't friends how can we be lovers later.
Give him a chance if it doesn't work out move on...life's way too short to waste on one man.
2006-08-09 16:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by billyboysblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not right to be mad at him he just doesnt feel as strongly about you as you do him. Hes a guy maybe he will come around eventually. Doesnt sound like your dating him.
2006-08-09 13:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell'o Yes you got a right to be mad, and you should tell him too
2006-08-09 13:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by Iron Rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just didnt know u like him and didnt know u guys were dating. maybe he just thought it was just kinda some friends time or something. if he doesnt know u like him, u gotta let him know sooner or later. if he knows u guys r dating, and he concider u as his girlfriend, then maybe he is just shy to admit it to his friends and family. maybe he thought u will kinda get mad or something like that. he might think tht u dont like him like a boyfriend and thinks u just treat him like a regular friend.give him time and he wont feel that scared about admitting it.
2006-08-09 13:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by lollerskates 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless he had a very good reason to call you a friend, like that his parents don't want him to date or something, he shouldn't have done that. i would be mad in that situation
2006-08-09 13:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by erica_m16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋