Do you think it is ok for your husband to invite an exgirlfriend to your child's birthday?

Question

My husband did and we are now fighting about it. Myself and my sister noticed that he was flirting with her. This was my daughter's first birthday and he knew I did not want her there. She broke up my husband's first marriage and several others. What should I do? Should I call her and tell her not to come to my house anymore?

Answer 1

No, its not okay. Call her and tell her you don't want her in your home ever. If your husband still insists then throw him out because he is having sex with her. No man in love with his wife and happy with his child and family would willingly create a situation like this. He is probably inviting her over so that your kid can get to know her future stepmother in an environment were the child will think its okay because her mother is there. This woman should never come anywhere near your child or your home. No excuses. No questions.

And if he has a problem with this then tell him I said so and I will tell him a thing or two.

Answer 2

I wouldn't call her i would make my husband call her if anybody needs to call her (with you right there hearing the conversation) Let me tell you why, she was invited to the party and yes you didn't invite her, but you don't know what he said to her. He most likely told her that you were fine with her coming, so this matter is with your husband not her, however You need to put your foot down where your man is concerned. Tell him that if he does some sh*t like that again then he better have his bags packed. He should have asked you to bring an ex girlfriend to your home much less your daughters first birthday party. I personally am infuriated for you, i would not put up with no bullsh*t like that. How about if you were to bring an ex home? Honey that was VERY disrespectful to you, and he was flirting with her, oh H3ll no, I'm sorry to make things any worse but i feel like i need to say this, if he acts like that in front of you and your family then what is he doing behind your back? Just something to think about. If this women has a past history of screwing up his relationships then i would tell him to chose you or her and that means no seeing, no writing, no talking to this female. Sweetie i really hope for you that every thing works out okay BUT it sure does sound like alot of red flags are every where. GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

First off, I feel that you should not have to call her. I am putting myself in your shoes. For me, I would sit him down, talk to him and not hold back. Meaning I will get everything off of my chest. I would let him know that I was very upset at the fact that he would disrepect me to the point of bringing a woman from his past to OUR child's first b-day party. Next, I would remind him that he was married and be sure to let him know that I saw the two of them flirting. Third, I would have HIM do the calling to her to tell her to stay away and she is no longer welcome to OUR home. I would make him call her then and there with me in the room. You are a woman, I feel that you don't need to waste your time calling a "sl*t" who doesn't have enought sense of her own to stay out of MARRIED people's buisness! If he has a problem with calling her, especially while you are there with him. I would question that. Are they still involved? I would definately let everything on my chest about the situation be known. She is such a dumb a$$. If he has been involved with her in the past, got married on her to someone else, and had other relationships and she is still around, that should tell her that she isn't WOMAN enough for him to marry. YOU are his WIFE. I think once you put your foot down, things will change. Good Luck. Don't let anything else slide by without you saying how you feel.

Answer 4

Have they been friends this entire time? Did your husband ask you first? I would have a seriou talk with your husband if he invited her without telling you. What was the reason for inviting her in the first place?

Answer 5

You have the right to be upset. How blatantly disrespectful of your husband to flirt with her in front of you! This is your house too and since her presence bothers you a great deal, you have every right to tell your husband not to bring her along next time. Since he was the one who invited her, it's his job to tell her. He needs to understand that what he did upset you and needs to respect your feelings about this.

Answer 6

Of course not. He didn't respect your wishes and invited her anyway. He flirted with her at the party. AND she broke up his first marriage??? Have you asked yourself why his ex-girlfriend is still in his life to the extent that he is putting her ahead of you. He's having a relationship with her. I would seriously consider leaving him. He's having his cake and eat it too....and he's doing it right under your nose.!

Answer 7

Out of respect for you, your husband should be the one who recognizes that this was not a good idea, and fix the problem..... You shouldnt have to do it.. And there shouldnt be any fighting about it either, if hes a sincere , loving & loyal man!

Answer 8

The way I see it is like this...how would he like it if one of your ex's showed up with the same reputation that this woman carries...I would tell her in a nice but plain matter that she is no longer welcomed at my home...if he didn't like it he could go live with her.

Answer 9

You have to settle your husband first. If he wants to invite her, the problem lies with him. He should not invite her. He should not have her number and she should not have his phone numbers.

Answer 10

YOU ACT LIKE YOU NOMAL'LE DO. SHE'S TRYING TO TAKE YOUR MAN. YOU HAVE TO FRIGHT FOR HIM . JUST BECAUSE YOUR MARRYED DOSE NOT MEAN NOT EVER WOMEN OUT THERE IS NOT TRY TO GET TO HIM. IT'S JUST LIKE A JOB EVER BODY TRYING TO GET YOUR SPOTE. SO TELL HIM THAT IF HE WHEN TO SEE HER THEN . LET HER COME OVER WHEN YOUR DAURHTER IS OVER A FRIEND HOUSE .BUT DON'T TELL HIM SO WHEN HE COME FOR WORK .HE WILL SEE HER IN IF HE'S IN TO HER HE WILL ASK YOU QUESTION'S THAT SHOULD NOT MATTERED TO HIM. THEN YOU HAVE YOU ANSWER. GOOD LUCK!