My enemy was hired at my job and I'm her supervisor!?

Question

A girl I used to be friends with a long time ago just got hired at my job. We have not been friends for almost 5 years because she started talking about me behind my back. She knows I work here and to top it off, I am going to be her supervisor! (She starts next week) To make things worse, she has been sending MY friends slandering e-mails about me, making stuff up that I talk bad about them, etc. My friends told her to get a life but she has continued sending e-mails that I'm this and that. She starts at my job next week and I'm having a hard time figuring out how to remain professional when all I really want to do is sock her in the teeth! Any suggestions...
P.S. We're almost 30 yrs old! I know this sounds like a teenage problem-that's how lame she really is!

To the paraleagal that told me to inform the boss: can the boss even do anything about it since the friends she is contacting are not employees?

Answer 1

You are in a professional supervisory position, You can not let your ego get the best of you. When she goes to work there, you must treat her just like all the rest. Now then, if she doesn't perform her duty's as outlined by the company you first have a talk with her about her performance. Second time you write her up. Third time you can fire her. Don't let this get the best of you, show her you are a bigger person than she. If she keeps this up, you have all the grounds to sue her for defamation of character. In law, what she is doing is committing a tort.

Answer 2

Well it's a funny how things workout? Now that she's on the passenger side and Ur in the driver seat she may buckle down. U can always be nice in a cutting way to her u can give her looks, smirks and make her think people at work know things about her.

U may also have o tell her that u will not put up with rumors and her making trouble at work,

U can also( OFF THE CLOCK) tell her that she better watch her back and front because since u and she know each other in a bad way u will not ( as her boss) put up with anything form her, the minute someone says something bad about her u will make a notes and list, so whats more important her doing a good job or letting personal feeling getting in the way?

When u talk to her make sure some of the thing u say to her is ( off the clock) because that way if she trys 2 go to UR boss it won't go against u and get u in trouble.

U have to get her somewhere no one else will hear u tell her this also don't do it over phones either ( she could be taping u)

But at least Ur enemy is close that way u can watch her.

There's a reason she's there( like I said it's funny how things workout) I think it's time u confront her or she has to face u( the universe put her there for a reason and u should past up a chance to deal with her.

But do it in a cold cutting way to drive her crazy, but also in a way that if someone else see u being nice to her it will look like just that

Answer 3

First let your boss know of the situation and tell him that you are mature enough not to let this affect your work.In other words youll leave yourpersonal life outside work but definitely are sure she wont and show him whatever proof you have. Let your boss handle this one instead of making a bad situation worse. Just remember being a professional means that you are able to put all feelings aside and handle any situation professionally and mature enough not to get into little kids games. Dont lower your self to her level so you both lose your jobs. Its not worth settling a vendetta over. So be the adult and talk to your boss. CYA and good luck

Answer 4

It's not lame at all!!! I had the same problem. I went to my manager and told him. If you leave her with me,there will be bigger problems. He move her to a different department(FAST). If you don't feel right about that, there are ways to make her life a living Hell. Do things to her that no one would think you would do. Just make sure no one is around when you do it. Then people think she's nuts......lol! Or you can take the higher road and treat her as if you didn't know her. That would mess her up.

Answer 5

by ur ps comment u sound a bit childish urself but if not and u think u coulkd put up with her do it and wait for her to get busted doing it and if it does get out of hand witch it sounds like it has as long as u havent retaliated u can contact the cops because it sounds like she is harrasing u and ur friends who have all asked to be left alone and the authoroties may be able to sort it out but no matter what dont risk ur job over it

Answer 6

Get copies of all the emails sent to your friends about you, and give them to your boss. Legally he has to do something, it amounts to harassment. Anything that causes a hostile work environment has to be dealt with.Also write a letter explaining what happened between the two of you and give that to him. I am not positive, but I think when something like is given, it has to go in someones file. Good luck.

Answer 7

hii,
well it seems that girl that used to be your friend had a serious problem . i mean what is wrong with this girl is she trying to mess up your life or what?.
just ignore her and for the e-mails i think your friends know you well so they don't have to some one telling them any thing about you and after awhile they gonna know her well and will not listen to her and for your job come on you are going to be her supervisor as you said so do what you had to do in your job.
cuz you don't give a damn about her you give a damn about your job.
don't worry.
every thing gonna be alright

Answer 8

those interest problems are person-friendly, extremely in case you have underlings or friends who're jealous. I consider the 1st poster. in basic terms be hassle-free, and proceed to artwork annoying. And, as quickly as you get on an excellent keel back, attempt to provide up irritating. it is going to kill you. If it keeps to be "undesirable", come across a sparkling interest. (that is greater handy to GET a activity once you're working someplace.) in case you meet along with your bosses privately ... renowned to them which you're feeling to procure off to a foul commence. ASK for their concepts on counsel on the thank you to commence over. Be apologitic, and humble. they are going to experience you admire them by applying asking them, and it will coach you're prepared to make issues stunning, and save them that way! plenty good success to you!!! sign me: Been there achieved that! playstation : I continually experience, interior the base line of those issues, that it is the bosses who're to blame for keeping cohesion interior the workplace. They shouldn't tolerate "snubbing, etc."

Answer 9

First off, you have to remain professional while at work. Think of it this way, if she really does act this childishly, eventually she'll slip up and be fired. Problem solved.

Answer 10

Be careful with that lady ,i'm sure she still wants some kind of revenge.She might try to sabotage your spot at work....