recently i just found out i was prenant :) i was so excited, my cousin who is also my best friend is about a month pregnant, and i was so excited that we are going to be moms together... until she told me she didnt want the baby and that her and her husband arent ready, but she doesnt want to have an abortion?!?!? she told me today about 20 min ago to be exact, that she is going to start to take four wemons laxatives every other day, and limit food intake. emidiately i want to tell her husband becuase i dont agree with this at all!, do you think it will cause a miscarriage, and should i tell her husband?
2006-08-09 13:19:54 · 9 answers · asked by crissy B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
yes tell someone please. i am not sure what it will do other than make her very very sick. if she doesn't want it. lots of people would want it.
2006-08-09 13:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by deener1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a strong possibility nothing will happen to her except dehydration and diarrhea and she'll have to go to the hospital.
Tell her husband. It's his kid too. Sounds like she's depressed. He has a right to know what happens to his own offspring, and help his wife through this emotionally. Very likely she's having some kind of emotional-psychological event and if she really does manage to self abort she will regret it deeply, plunging her into an even more serious depression, possibly psychosis.
Both of you help her get professional help to decide if she really does want to keep the baby or not, and if not convince her not to endanger her own life by trying to self abort. If it turns out she really does want the baby and is unreasonably scared and mentally unstable, there are safe medications she can take to even out her mental state.
No reasonable, rational woman would harm herself in this way and avoid telling her partner about the issues surrounding an unwanted pregnancy. If she were serious, she'd pay for a real abortion and either tell her husband before or after.
Something's not right with her. She's crying out for attention.
2006-08-09 13:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by mom2babycolin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to AFFORD to have an abortion?
NO, it won't cause an abortion because a fetus can live through many horrible cirumstances and draw off of the mothers nutritional supply. You might want to remind her that a fetus is not in her intestine or bowel so she can flush it out with laxatives. She may however cause severe physical or mental problems with the child.
YES, tell her husband.... definately... What she's talking about doing is simply not right... If she doesn' t want the pregnancy to continue then she can terminate it safely. Someone needs to tell her to grow up and get responsible...
2006-08-09 13:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doing that could make her very sick, which will affect the baby. Gee, how sad. Doing that is the same as abortion, which means killing the baby and ending the pregnancy, no matter how it is done.
In my calling we are supposed to report when a person is doing or about to be doing something that is either self-destructive, or destructive to others. I think it depends on how well you relate to the husband, but I would tell him,, even if she gets mad,,, but first,,, talk to her personally, with the information that it will definitely make her and the baby sick,,, because of the dehydration of diahrea, and the loss of nutrition.
2006-08-09 13:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will not cause her to have a miscarriage, the baby will take everything it need from the "moms" Body. she the mom will just be in a lot on pain.
and where would she get an idea like that
yes you should tell her husband
2006-08-09 13:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Nikole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definetly tell her husband. And i really doubt though that this would do anything to cause a miscarriage. from what i have been told it is actually very difficult to cause a miscarriage on your own. but her husband has a right to know what she is doing since this is also his child and should have a say.
2006-08-09 13:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by rachelpaul1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really, it's difficult to induce a miscarriage. Women have tried for centuries to figure it out without success.
The only proven method is the "morning after" pill or RU486. This is typically the same as a large dose of birth control pills.
(Don't try this at home, I don't know how much and too many could cause REAL problems!)
2006-08-09 13:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it's no different then getting an abortion. I would tell her husband, because she is selfish.
2006-08-09 13:26:14 · answer #8 · answered by Loo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him immediately!! If she doesn't want to have a baby, there are professionals that will help her. She wmay seriously hurt herself trying to do that.
2006-08-09 13:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by sherry s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋