Am i too shy?

Question

i dont know whats wrong with me.Im 16 years old an iv been told im a very pretty girl.But everytime i see a good looking boy i dont know im scared that they might try an talk to me so thats why sometimes i hardly go anywhere.Like ive been asked to go on dates but im scared to even eat infroont of boys.Im just scared of what they might think of me.What do i do?

Answer 1

they'll probably think you're a timid prude who doesn't like people to see her eat. seriously, get out more, sneak out if you have to. forget your overprotective parents (they do have a point though with you living in Brooklyn and all) but venture out. hard to strike up conversations but woman can do it much more easily than men. no one cares what we have to say. just find a guy and small talk for awhile. during these tense situation your brain will come up with sometimes weird and quirky responses to questions but then it'll be something to laugh about when you'r talking to your guy friend.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

First of all, don't worry about who may talk to you until they actually do. Then just relax and be yourself and nice and realize they may be nervous too - and if they're not they actually may be a little more conceited than you'd like anyway.

When it comes to the food thing, just don't order messy food that you can't eat in a way that isn't embarrassing. Get unmessy sandwiches or else use a knife and fork with them. Use a knife and fork with pizza. Most food that you'd get at a nicer restaurant isn't messy anyway. Stay away from linquini, anything greasy, and anything with the strong smell or garlic and onion.

Don't have lettuce or tomato on your sandwiches. Your teeth may not cut them, and then there's the thing with pulling out giant, messy, pieces of lettuces or half tomatos with your teeth (and the dripping mess that comes with that kind of thing).

Some people say that when you think you're "self-conscious" you're really "others-conscious". Just be careful what you order to eat, and try to bear in mind that money could be an object for your date - and if you do those things there's not much any boy is going to think about your eating. Boys know you eat.

If you think awful things about other people then you are assuming they think the way you do, and most people don't think that way. If you generally don't pick apart every little thing people do in your own mind you have to realize most other people don't either.

Answer 4

Hey,

I was shy too, you will become more confident as you get older. I still am sometimes and I am almost 28.

The best thing you can do is to not worry about dates but just become friends with guys, hang out with them and just be yourself, you can gain confidence around guys if you are just friends with them. Maybe something more will come out of one of your friendships.

You can also try going out on a double date or with a group of people (guys and girls) so you won't feel scared about being alone with a guy. There is less pressure in a group setting.

Get involved in school activities and have fun, everything will happen in time.

Answer 5

Go out and you will probably find it hard the first time but after that it will get easier when you find out no one is going to make fun of you and you will have more self esteem.You won't make any changes until you make the first move. So be brave to go the first time. You won't regret it and you can keep on living a better more fulfilled life. You will get more comfortable with yourself and others.Tell the person your with your shy and they will understand why you are quiet,etc.

Answer 6

I understand what you are going through. I learned that what you think about yourself is important. I prefer to have a few very close friends and I do care what they think but i know they love me as family. the rest of the does not know me so their opinion does not matter. Just relax and enjoy life.

Answer 7

When i was your age i was terribly shy. I got turned down a few times and it messed with my head. But I learned if you dont at least try you will be alone. Shy can be kind of sexy. My sense of humor helped me and the fact I hit 6'1 my senior year.

Answer 8

Don't sneak out and break your parents trust. Its the stupidest thing you can do. Dont listen to that guy.

Answer 9

be your self and stay cool