I have a cousin who is married with a child. His wife's English is limited. They pop at my house always unanounced. The child snoops around my house looking through my things, including my purse. The wife is also a bit nosey. My cousin seems oblivous to all of this. I've asked them nicely several times to call in advance, because we may have other plans. It goes in one ear to out the other. I finally got fed up and displayed anger. The wife was offended. I've tried to explain as nice as possible that it's common courtisy to phone in advance. My husband and I never show up to their home unanounced. Now they are telling other family members that we are rude to them and that they have no idea why we are mean to them. They have also jumped over our fence and opened the side door of the house and let themselves in while I was in the shower. Am I just being paranoid?
2006-08-09 12:47:57 · 7 answers · asked by fustrated 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are not paranoid that is something that you just do not do. You should let them come over whenever they want. You do not have to answer the door. Just remeber to lock all doors and windows. They will get tired of driving over just to stand outside. Especially when gas reahces 4.00
2006-08-09 12:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lady_G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be furious.(Family or not) If you don't open your door because your in the shower, doesn't mean its an invitation to jump the fence and let themselves in, thats breaking and entering. As for the snooping child and nosy wife, the next time they go treasure hunting through your house stop them and ask them what they are looking for, start making them feel uncomfortable, after a while the visits will stop. It's your house take it back.
2006-08-09 20:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lock your doors and windows and refuse to answer the doorbell, phone, etc. If you do it consistently they will eventually get tired of making the trip to your home and finding nobody there.
When they are snooping around your place, pointedly ask them, May I help you? As for rummaging through your purse, I would be OUTRAGED! and would make sure they became aware ot it. You don't say how old the child is, but if it is a young child, ask his parents to bring along toys for the child to play with.
2006-08-09 23:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by Celeste A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You tried the nice approach and obviously it didn't work. Lock your doors and don't answer when they "drop in". Eventually they will get tired of the game and go away. As far as your other family members, if you explain the situation to them they should understand.
Good luck!
2006-08-09 19:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by marlio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not paranoid! You were right to get angry. I know I would have been and you probably handled yourself a lot better than I would have. I know that you don't want everyone else mad at you guys, but really who cares? They are the rude ones and behavior like that is just not right. You have the right to privacy in your own home, not to mention...sleeping in on a Sunday!
2006-08-09 19:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by Reagan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You actually need to tell them that they are causing problems for you - then set the ground rules by which that need to conduct themselves or you won't be available and neither will your home.
2006-08-09 19:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no they should call in advance
2006-08-09 19:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by Terrashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋