How can i stop my man from being so untrusting and insecure?

Question

He doesnt trust me and i havent done anything for it to be like this. Can i train him to be more trusting?

Answer 1

The way your husband is toward you is the same way I am toward my husband. I don't trust him and he hasn't done anything wrong. I think your husband is so worried because he doesn't think he could handle it if you do do something wrong. And since you haven't it's hard for him to believe you are so good to him. I think you can train him to be more trusting by never cheating on him. By not looking at any other guys. By telling him over and over that you love him and only him. Just be the best you can be. If that doesn't work I don't think there is an ans er.

Answer 2

Trust is not something to play with. Either he has it or he does not. And if he does not have it then there are reason's. You need to find out the answers to be able to find a solution. You can not train someone to be trusting. That is part of who they are and what they feel. You have to change them in order to make that work. See a professional to see if you can get to the root of the probelm. Hope you get the help you need.

Answer 3

My husband was the same way. And still kinda is. He has gotten better. I just make sure I reassure him that I love him and that he always knows where I am. If I go out with the girls I do usually try and call him and tell him where I am at and whats going on. It's sad because sometimes they act like little kids but they have to have constant attention from their wives. It is better now, but occassionally he will go back to his old ways. He was hurt in the past by his girlfriend that cheated on him constantly and he did not about it. I think that screws somebody up for life. Good luck to ya!!

Answer 4

It may well be that he's been burned before by women. Or, more than once. While it isn't fair to you, everybody has to deal with the pasts of those we date. I suggest that you give him some time. Assuming you don't give him cause to worry, he should begin to trust you. If not, give up the guy. Some problems can't be fixed. Good luck.

Answer 5

First of all you don't train adults only children and animals - as far as his insecurities are concerned that is not an issue for you to resolve he needs to deal with whatever is causing him to be so insecure in your relationship if you are not warranting any accusations - I would suggest that you try to get him to go to counseling so that he can get to the root of what is causing his fears

Answer 6

Oh boy! You need to get to the bottom of why he doesn't trust you. Have a sincere talk with him regarding this and ask him why he feels this way. You need to know the reason why there's a lack of trust in his part. His problem is himself and has nothing to do with you.

Answer 7

Don't do anything that would make him feel insecure; always be where you say you'll be, always be on time, don't argue about his insecurity, call him out of the blue just to tell him hi or that you love him, always let him know where you are going & who you'll be with....basically do everything you would want him to do if you were the one who was insecure.

Answer 8

If someone has deep seated trust issues, in my opinion, it would be difficult, if not impossible to "train him to be more trusting." I would suggest seeing a marriage counselor. Perhaps he/she can help him get to the root of his trust issues. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Can you train him? sure just send him to a school for untrusting and insecure husbands.

Answer 10

You can't stop him from anything. He's probably cheating, and he is emotionally abuse. Just get the hell out of there while you can.