i have overly protective parents that thinks once i go out im gonna get shot,or raped,or kidnnapd(i live in brooklyn,ny).And im in highschool and i wanna feel accepted.What do i do?
2006-08-09 12:47:04 · 64 answers · asked by mintycoutur3 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
do whatever u want.
2006-08-09 12:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by BoRiQuA_MaMi 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Listen to your parents. You will have tons of time to party. There is a TON of danger out there for a 16 year old girl. You are still a kid, a child. Kids seldom make the smartest choices when it comes to their safety or getting into trouble. You are too susceptible to peer pressure and will do stupid things to fit in. Your own question shows this to be at least partially true. High School is not the world, and it won't matter squat once it's over. So don't put so much pressure on yourself to be cool and fit into a group. Listen to your parents, they are the ones who truly care.
The boys can not be trusted. The older they get, the more they just want in your pants. It is a universal truth.
2006-08-09 12:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by cannon1977 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I didn't believe this before, but parents many, MANY, REALLY MANY times know better. Sometimes when you're a teenager don't really know what things happen in life and what things are important and how to take care of yourself. You THINK you know, but trust me, I haven't met ANY that actually knows better than their parents. I don't know your neighborhood, but I'm going to give you a serious advice: don't compromise your own safety and integrity just in order to be accepted. Later on you'll realize that that acceptance that you "value" so much right now is worth nothing and realize what things are really worth. There's a commercial that says "live above the influence", and I couldn't agree more.
And besides, parties are not a big deal anyways. People make a big fool of themselves, trying to appear more "mature" by drinking or smoking or doing drugs, and they don't realize that they're only making a ridicule and throwing out the window their chances of being a good person for real.
Hope this advice gets to you and helps you in any way.
Take care and good luck with everything in your life! Sincerely.
2006-08-09 12:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you feel like an outcast because you cant go to a place where there are lots of illegal activities going on like drugs and underage drinking which will induce even less thinking on the part of whoever is consuming, not to mention the thick haze of smoke in the air plus the fact that if if you dont bow in to peer pressure and you actually do drink a soda someone may think they are funny and put lord knows what in your drink and then there will be all the wallflowers that are comatosed from drink and drugs and dont forget the giggly snobs acting like your friend as they get drunk and the metal heads that just want you to take a toke and the dramatics of he said she said games. Too bad you cant let your parents feel accepted and realize they love you.
2006-08-09 12:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by whirlwind_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we can all safely say that we've experienced the same thing at varying degrees.
When I was in high school, my parents were so strict that IF I was allowed out on a weeknight (and that;s a big IF), I had to be home by 10pm. I used to hate their rules so much that I used to sneak out at night until I got caught. Then I fell into a bad depression. It was very bad.
I can tell you however, that there IS a light at the end of the tunnel. All that talk about wanting what's best for you is TRUE.
Those "friends" that I so desperately tried to hang out with have had many pregnancies & abortions, some have gone to jail and others are no longer with us. All in the name of "partying".
I thank God for parents that actually took time to raise me and spend time with me rather than pawn me off on my friends. Today I have a great work ethic that lead me to a great job and a wonderful relationship with my parents.
Today, I have lots of friends and a wonderful fiance that I hang out with all the time.
2006-08-09 13:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 16, you have less than two years to go until you're old enough to tell your parents where to stick it. It's probably worth sticking around long enough to finish school - make it much easier to find work, anyway.
If they're willing to send you to college, you might want to think about this a bit. Face it: unless you're independently wealthy, you're going to have to kiss a certain amount of butt to get by in the world. If it's not your parents or teachers, it will be a boss or a drill sergeant. But it will definitely be someone.
With your parents, at least you know them and know the lay of the land. I know this won't be easy for you to consider, but you might want to just grit your teeth and sweat it out until you get what you want out of the situation. You've got your whole life ahead of you, and a bit of patience and fortitude right now will likely pay off big in the future.
Just sayin'. Good luck to you whatever you do - as I recall, it's not easy being 16.
2006-08-09 12:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by mommadillo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to your parents and be grateful that they love you and want to protect you, and just try to be social at school. I feel like an outcast because I don't want to be near anyone at school! Not because they're all weird, because they are all the same, I cannot find a really good friend at school. You should listen to your parents, trust me. Everywhere that you go in the world, there is a sicko or two. Some places, more than others. Just be careful please, you sound like a very nice person.
2006-08-09 12:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 16 and I go to partys and I deffintly dont feel accepted with my high school people. Ive met older more mature people who have a lot better partys. I just lie about my age. And if you want your parents to let you go LIE! Go to a movie then stay at a friedns house. You dont just say, hey mom, I want to go to a party with some of my 20 something year old friends and have some kinky threesomes get super wasted and smoke sooo much weed, can I go? No its better if you introduce the friends slowly. Like you hang out with some friends and you meet a new person pretend. And this persons name is Bob. then when your mom asks you who all you hung out with you say so so so so so and I met this guy named bob hes really cool and seemed really responsible, Then dont say anything about him for a couple of days till you get a phone call and be when your mom asks who it is say bob. Slowly introduce her to the concept that you have a new friend. If you want to know more or need tips just email me lilgirllynn12590@yahoo.com
2006-08-09 12:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by Christina B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to sit down and really start working out a compromise or contract with mom and dad. As a parent, I can understand their fears. Just turn on the news or open a paper and you will read all sorts of horror stories. But, they are not doing you any good either. In order for you to grow, mature, and become more independent and responsible, they are going to have to cut the apron strings. Realize, that even though it may seem like your parents are being mean and unfair, they are doing this out of love.
MY PLAN
1. Tell them that this is a new school year and you would like to work out an agreement or compromise with them
2. I let my daughter go out if I knew, who she was with, where she was going, knew at least one of the parents of her friends, and she had had a curfew.
3. You have to gain your parent's trust and prove to them that you are capable of making wise choices.
4. In 2 years you will legally be an adult and they will not have that much control over you anymore. Then what will they do? They have to start giving you some trust and experience now.
Act mature, be mature, prove to them that you are capable of making wise decisions.
Give them reason not to worry!
Good Luck.......................
2006-08-09 13:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how u feel, but believe me, parties are not that great... they get kind of wack... i know u wont see it or know this though until u actually go and try urself but if ur willing to take some advice, its this: stay home and perfect urself at alot of things. for example: i like rapping, so i stay home all the time and rap and now im pretty good. something i would have never achieved by going out and wasting my time. read books, fill ur brain with knowledge cause thats ur ticket to success. trust me, ur life will be better if u listen to ur parents... i, like most people, didn't and now i wish i had... im 21, broke as hell, no college, living out on my own... trust me, ur parents are waaayy more important than "friends"... but of course everyone does what they want... im just saying, don't worry about not going out and stuff - but if u do just remember what i told u...
2006-08-09 12:56:38 · answer #10 · answered by Peter S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are right.. you're too young to be a party girl.. save that **** for college. The only thing you should worry about is getting through school, making a few good friends that understand you, and having fun doing it. Trust me, you have a lot of time left to party. You may get frustrated with youre parents.. but they do know what's best!
2006-08-09 12:53:15 · answer #11 · answered by Wicked 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋