Why do the races grow apart as we grow older?

Question

When we are young, we play together and are truly colorless in our view of the world. Kind of like that Coke commercial " if I could teach the world to sing". But as we get older, we segrate ourselves from eachother . When and why does this happen?

Answer 1

Unfortunately, the older you get, the more likely you are to have had bad experiences with another race.

Answer 2

It shouldn't, but you learn about the real world or you have experiences that make you shy away from certain types of people as your world view is shaped and formed. I have a question. I get along with anyone really but I have noticed that alot of minorities will ALWAYS group together and almost sort of push away other people or groups. As an example there are a lot of African Americans where I work but I always notice that when a new employee is hired and they are black they are immedietly best friends with the other blacks. They will go straight to each other and try to bond right away. The same thing I have noticed about Latinos also. From a white perspective I don't see this. I for example don't walk up to only the new white employees and become best friends. In fact I can usually look at the new white kids and say to myself, "that guy looks like a douchebag." Why is that?

Answer 3

To me, this begins to happen then children begin to find their place in the world. When concepts of basic human need and own self worth are setting in for the first time. Children learn from the adults. It's a hard cycle to break, hatred breeds hatred, as well as indifference and other emotions.

I believe this happens because what children can learn is stripped away from isolated adults. 'This person is different because...' may be all they hear as they grow and learn. It becomes embedded in a new young adult which s/he will pass down the next generation's same shared knowledge. We teach the younger generation with everything we say and do as a society.

That's my take on the when and why.

Answer 4

It happens some of the time and that's too much. I think some us can get along with anyone. Too much hate passes from generation to generation. I live in a neighborhood that was 90% Italian up until 10 years ago. Now it has Hispanic, Afro-Americans, and Asians along with some of the Italians who didn't run away when somebody new moved next door. People are people if you give them a chance. There will always be "the haters" and they also come in every variety you can think of. Life is too short to hate "others" who aren't like you and we can learn so much by sharing our cultures and our heritage.

Answer 5

Cultural upbringing has a effect on that. We are brought up with different ideas that color our views. These views come into conflict as we grow-up. Though the truth is two or more people can work through these detail if they really want to keep their friendship. Even then people tend to grow apart. In the end it usually easier to hang with people with the same belief system and views as you. Although easy is not necessary better.

Answer 6

A lot of it has to do with our parents imprinting their predjudices upon us. Then, we begin to treat others differently. In return they treat US different... thus completing and perpetuating the circle of hate.

I have nothing against people of other races and try to give everyone I meet an equal chance. BUT what gets my goat is when somebody comes up to me and immediatly ASSUMES i'm predjudice because I am white.

My father's side of the family didn't come to America until the early 1900's and my mom's side of the family is Amish/Mennonite... I SERIOUSLY doubt anyone in my family owned slaves. YET, I am treated like a hate monger when all I did was be born white. If I were a lesser person, I'd let it get to me and try to avoid those who are different... but that wouldn't be fair to me or anyone else.

There are wonderful people out there of every race OR culture... just give them a chance and don't stereo-type

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I see it the other way around. We are long past the days of slavery and segregation as a whole and mixed race relationships, marriages and offspring are becoming more socially acceptable. Schools are busing in students in order to even out the race statistics. White men are rapping. Seems to me like we're all actually coming together.

Answer 9

i dont think we do it consciously, but as we get older, we begin to fall into our own little "cliques" which may or may not include other races. It seems to change with when marry and have families, mainly because of family life and other things. Its just that we arent usually surrounded by other races every day. (Im speaking for MOST people, and certainly not all. ) Our own personal relationships with peers are put aside as we try to raise families of our own, and we usually lose touch with those friends we had with the exeption of keeping a few close friends.

Answer 10

Not as much common interest. Most people feel more comfortable with their "own kind" so to say.

I've never had a problem with it. I have friends of many different backgrounds and colors.

Mostly it depends on how you're raised and where you go to school.