and we have a son together . what should i do ?
2006-08-09 12:14:26 · 15 answers · asked by ~ Passionategirl_31 ~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He doens't have to at this point! He knows that you're not going anywhere, heck, you had a child without a ring! Suggestion? Leave now with the few scraps of dignity you have left. If and when he does get married, it will be to a woman he's afraid to lose. Trust me!
2006-08-09 12:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave well enough along if you still want to be with this guy, because by staying with him this long without that commitment, he has good reason to believe that he can get away without it totally. Why did you stay so long without his asking for marriage? His answer now will be that you two are married (doing what married couples do & have a kid), what's different about it. If you theaten to leave, he may let you get one foot out the door to see if you'll do it. If he asks under this situation, then it won't last anyway. Take it from someone who's done that before, and it was over before a year was up. Just ask him if he has any intentions of getting the "paper" is what guys call it, and see where you stand. Otherwise, you need to be prepared for anything after this length of time.
2006-08-09 12:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to find out would be to ask HIM. The people here have absolutely no idea what hes like or what is going on in your life together. There is no easy out - you have to ask him. If he can't or won't tell you why then ask him to go to counseling so you can work it out together. If he won't go to counseling tell him that aren't satisfied with the way things are and if he won't do anything to help make the situation better then you hope he will leave so you can show your son an example of a successful relationship than a one where the man has no respect for the woman.
2006-08-09 12:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by MayMay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not want to sound mean, but why should he marry someone when he does not need to? (the whole get the milk for free thing). I think women are too romantic when it comes to these things. (sorry) I know that you are thinking of yourself as "together" but he believes himself to be basically single I hope this is not to harsh. Could it be that he is trying to keep his options open? Commit or hit the road = pain now or pain later...
2006-08-09 12:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by 57chevy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got out of an relationship that last 7yrs...never once ask me to marry him..he was too busy two timing me..we just got too comfortalbe with each other
2006-08-09 12:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already married, ask him to be a man and complete the legal part of the relationship. It's the heart that make you stay, no piece of paper can guarantee that.. He should do it because he loves you and it would add to your happiness,
2006-08-09 12:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Allwomanhere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships has it's twists and turns , it's leaves you in pain but teaches you to learn.Even it takes so long ,love always take you where you belong .. Cherish the moments with him and with your son . Waits is worthy..
2006-08-09 13:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you lived together, why should he marry you when he gets what he wants now.
2006-08-09 12:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say boot him out--if he loves you, he would have married you by now.
Find a man grown-up enough to commit to you!!
2006-08-09 12:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he doesn't really love you b/c if he did than he would be ready to commit to you and your child
2006-08-09 12:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋