How do I get revenge on the girl who stole my husband,other than letting her keep him?!
2006-08-09 12:04:55 · 47 answers · asked by kelly l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go and blow your hubby and video tape it and mail it to her
that will show her that he is still yours
2006-08-09 12:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why waste your energy? He is obviously not worthy is he is so easily swayed, and she isn't either, if she hooks up with someone like him.
Be glad he is HER problem now.
Remember how easily swayed he was with you? He has a problem. He is too scared to tell his partner what he needs, so he just gets it elsewhere. He feels too inadequate around you, so he reinvents himself "This new gal doesn't know about my shortcomings"......
She will eventually discover his shortcomings on her own, or he will do the same thing to her that he did to you.
Be glad you found out what he was like before you spent 30 years of marriage with him.......
Be glad you are single and available to date whomever you want and nobody to answer to.
When you get over leaving him, and being by yourself, you feel more empowered. It takes a while, but that begins when you gain some self respect for not letting it (the affair) destroy you. You have to choose not to be a victim, and show him and yourself that he was not significant enough to destroy you.
If you give too much energy to revenge, it robs you of self esteem. They don't deserve your energy. You will being to feel ashamed of yourself.
Start kickboxing classes and do yoga. It will help you focus your inner power and consume your negativity. If you're not into that, then take karate or ballroom dancing lessons.
The idea is to do something new and master a skill. It will build you back up.
The best revenge is to live well, and come out of this in a better state than ever before. Leaving him was the best thing you ever did for yourself.....
Hang in there! YOU CAN DO THIS!
2006-08-09 12:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is one of those most horrible of life situations... but, ya gotta believe God is clearing the way for something better!! I remember sitting on my bed crying my eyes out when my no-good ex left me while I was pregnant..I thought for sure I'd just die of sadness... I don't think I slept for a whole week! But somehow, I pulled myself together... and lo and behold.. I went to some co-dependency groups (great to bond w/ other women dealing with BS too!) learned I didn't need the jerk, ended up with a miscarriage, which in this case was for the best, since I had two small ones already and no $$!), and got myself out there and living again... and met a WONDERFUL guy!! When my ex came around 2 months later (they always come back)... I was happy-go-lucky, going out and having fun, LIVING for once... and soooooo thankful that he had left ME, that I hugged him and said, I'm so happy that you left me! LOL He was very confused... then very sorry and sad. BUT the funny thing was, I really HAD moved on... and felt no emotion, anger, sadness, anything. Just relief, and was able to appreciate the good time we HAD spent together. So it was all good on my end. And I was so over it, it didn't even make me happy to know that my not caring was making him sad! I just felt... nothing. Except relief. So NOWWWW whenever $%*& goes down, I just hold on... cuz I know God has somethin better coming up soon... just gotta ride the slow wave, girl.... keep your chin up and WAIT!! (Ths is not the first time that sort of thing happened... nearly EVERY negative has a positive waiting in the wings... it's just WE don't get to know beforehand... but look back at your life, and you'll see what I mean.. those negatives are nearly always positives... whether losing a job, a man, 'the perfect situation', etc... :)
2006-08-09 12:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her keep him. Trust me, he'll always find the grass is greener on the other side and she'll soon find herself out in the cold. Also remember that living well is the best revenge. By moving on with your life, you'll make yourself more happy. Living for revenge in any other matter is a futile exercise as you only end up making yourself miserable.
2006-08-09 12:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, boo, if someone "stole" your husband, he was never yours to begin with. Second, your husband was an equal in this, so don't blame it all on this girl. Finally, the best revenge you can get is to go on with your life, get yourself straight, and be happy. Someday you'll find someone who'll treat you right. In the meantime, move on, sister. Find your way back to YOU.
2006-08-09 12:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it like this.Maybe she did you a favor.Look at it like she took him off your hands.Now something better can come to you.Was he really that good?Your feeling the hurt now but it will pass and a new wonderful man will come in your life and be ten times better that he could ever hope to be and you will love him ten times more than you did your husband.This will not happen if you get revenge.You'll still feel the same way you do now and he will be happy.Just let it go, wish him well and go find a new guy.Doing this alone will make him think your over him.Good Luck!
2006-08-09 12:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stole your husband? Is he an object, something you can steal? I think that unless your husband has some kind of mental condition that rendered him incapable of not being "stolen" you should be angry with him, not her. After all, she's just a poor little stupid tramp who can't find a man who's available. Your husband on the other hand sounds like a jerk. You should get whatever you can from HIM.
2006-08-09 12:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by aka Astra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't, I've learned that their being together is revenge enough. My ex is extremely miserable without my doing anything, so just sit back and give it time. When he tries to come back will be the ultimate revenge, Don't Do it.
2006-08-09 12:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting her keep him is revenge enough!! If he did this to you, he will do it to her and then the revenge kicks in. He'll probably come crying back to you and you won't even answer the door!! Good luck!
2006-08-09 12:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing good comes when you take something that doesn't belong to you (including men). I would get an even hotter man, fix your self up and hit the town and hope that you run into them on the streets and act as though it doesn't even bother you to see them together. She may say "oh good I'm glad she finally has a man and now she will leave us alone." but he is saying in his mind "GOT Damn she looks GOOD!" and when he does try to come back (b/c they always do try) you say "oh no babe, I've moved on..." that the best revenge on both of them, b/c he will leave her thinking that he is going to get back with you.
2006-08-09 12:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Hot Chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is an immature act. I believe what goes around comes around. Take the high road on this one.
2006-08-09 13:02:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋