ok,there's this guy,he's a veryyy nice bot everyone loves him,..even my mom,..no one says anything bad about him,he has proved that he loves me,but still i feel insecure,i feel i expect more of my life,and he proposed to me but i said we should be friends and see where life takes us,now i have the feeling he's getting tired of it and wants to break up,i don't feel as if i'm losing someone very important but i feel really bad and hollow....what should i do?i like him but i could never LIVE with him,and he obviously only wants to get married and no frindship that someday ends
2006-08-09 12:04:47 · 7 answers · asked by doc. 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Take the first step and tell him how you really feel. If you don't love him then for goodness sakes don't marry him. You don't marry someone just because he or she says so. You get married when you love the other person as much as they love you. You feel as if you are going to lose a good friend, not someone you would like to spend the rest of your life with. This is not good if you marry him anyway. If he wants out let him go. Be friends and don't be pressured by others to do their bidding. It is after all you who will be in a marriage that you don't want, with a guy you don't love.
2006-08-09 12:12:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. This is a bad deal for you.
I think I have been in more than one situation like this. My high school sweetheart would not let go & I think I hoped eventually he would cheat or time would eventually introduce someone else for him to fall for and a decade of our lives went by and neither of us was really happy. I feel like I tried to break it off with him 100 times but he just wasn't having any of that. I finally decided I don't believe in monogamy and wanted an open relationship which he couldn't deal with. Another 10 years later & he's still after me.
I hope you both are able to move on to better things.
Live well, laugh often, love much.
2006-08-09 12:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by communion6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People enter our life's for reasons and seasons. Don't marry someone that doesn't sit deep in your soul. Friendship is the foundation of my marriage but there is so much more to it. I can't breathe when I don't talk to my husband. I think about him all of the time. I spend every free moment that I have with him because I couldn't have it any other way. We have been married for fifteen years now and friends for ever. You will know in your heart who is right for you. So for what ever the reason or the season for your boyfriend, maybe you you need to just let it go. If it was meant to be then it will be. Don't get so stressed about this. Good Luck!
2006-08-09 12:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by angelsforanimals 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing I regret most in my life is that while the minister was talking to my groom and I about the wedding vows we were about to take, me in my gown, him in his tux and a church full of people, I didn't turn around and tell my parents (in the front row) that 'this is a mistake, take me home!'. If you already think it's a mistake, save the money and run, don't walk, RUN from him. If he doesn't want to be friends until you are comfortable with saying yes - let's get married, then something is not right. Kick him to the curb and look for happiness elsewhere!
2006-08-09 12:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Happy Hag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question when you said you could never live with him.
You really need to make him understand you are not attracted romantically to him. The "see where life takes us" approach may be giving him false hopes.
2006-08-09 12:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a bot then someday he will break down. So dont worry.
2006-08-09 12:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TURN THE POOR GUY LOOSE YOU DONT LOVE HIM, HE 'S JUST A SURE THING FOR YOU IF SOMETHING ELSE DOESN'T PAN OUT ,YOU SEEM VERY SELFISH
2006-08-09 12:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋