hes like my best friend and we have known eachother forever but i dont want to stop talking to him
2006-08-09 11:54:13 · 11 answers · asked by cheridan 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
*Simply tell him the truth.
2006-08-09 12:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by bany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you've been thinking about this for a while. That a lot has happened to you recently. That you've seen things you never imagined existed and it's changed you. It's made you wanna make changes.
Tell him you don't know what you want right now. That you need to just take some time to figure it all out. Say that you've had a little wake up call and you realise that life is too short to be wasting time doing something you really don't wanna be doing.
Say that he's been great. That he's opened you up to so many new things, made you feel wanted again. But that you need to be alone for a while relationship wise, no strings. Tell him that you need him more as a friend right now then anything else.
If he can't understand that then you need to make a complete break from the relationship. You cannot be with someone out of pity. I understand that he was your best friend but that friendship was ruined the moment you hooked up. That is a fact you will just have to accept. It will never be the same even if he agrees to the friendship. It will never be easy again. I hope everything works out for you. Good Luck!
2006-08-09 19:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may want to change your goal to breaking up with him in the nicest possible way. Hurting his feelings is probably inevitable.
I think you should put yourself in his shoes and imagine the situation. Think about different ways of him breaking up with you, and think about which one you would find most respectful. Then, consider his personality and think about if that would be best for him.
Most likely, if you are that close, you can start out by bringing up the subject of how you have been feeling lately, and tell him things that are not directly related to him...
such as..
I have been feeling a need to explore who I am, try new things, etc.
I have been feeling restless and I'm wondering if it might be a sign that...
things like that to bring up the subject.
I think you should be alone in a place where you can really talk and not feel like others are listening in.
I also think you should clearly tell him how much you care for him and want him to still be in your life if that is possible, but not as a boyfriend.
If he can't handle that right now, try to respect it and give him some time. He may come around.
Best case scenario, he may tell you he has been feeling the same way.
Good luck! You'll be fine! And so will he!
2006-08-09 19:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by lorgurus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant break up with a guy and not hurt his feelings...Its going to happen. Just tell him and truth. Then he has to decide if he needs to stop talking to you, to get over you.
2006-08-09 18:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by MandyHawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If is like your best friend then it is really important to tell him the truth in the nicest way possible and as soon as possible. You don't want to string him along.
2006-08-09 19:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by shikk79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to hurt his feelings regardless. unfortunely anytime you end a relationship, it hurts the other person. but then again if you are friends, eventually the friendship should be strong enough to come back around. u just have to give him time and space.
2006-08-09 19:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't . Be honest. Let him make his own choices. People say its to spare the other person but mostly it is so the one saying it doesn't have to deal with any unpleasant circumstances. for you,it is the risk of losing the friendship. Peace.
2006-08-09 19:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by wildrover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. However be firm (not mean) about it. Not this wishy-washy we'll be friends crap. Make him realize that it is over, completely, no chance, 0%, get over me, move on, find yourself someone else, date my friends, WHATEVER.
I've been dumped and left with the misconception that the relationship could be saved somehow, someday. I'll admit it. In the movie "Dumb and Dumber" when Jim Carrey's character asks Lauren Holly's character what his chances of dating her were and she says "one in a million?" he replies "so your saying there is a chance . . ." I'm thinking, duh that's was me.
2006-08-09 19:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by John G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to other country....
without any communications... he'll find someone new and would forget you! That would not hurt him...
It would just take time....
Tell him your studying to a particular country or for work? Yah?
2006-08-10 10:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him...
let him know your feelings...
ask about his feelings....
have an open, quiet discussion of the situation.
If he is a good friend, he will remain being your firiend!
If not, then you will know that you did all you could.
2006-08-09 19:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by schnikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋