My friend gets everything I want. Like at school she gets into quest (advanced learning) Even though I'm smarter. If we're in a play she gets the part I want( Like in 5th grade she got Ariabian dancer and I got the part I didn't want) Last year she got a part higher than me. It is so annoying!!!! I mean I am happy with myself but Just one thing I want to be better than her at and I want her to know it. Is that mean? When we have classes together it feels like we're in compitien. I feel like she tries to beat me at these things! What should I do?
2006-08-09 11:51:24 · 15 answers · asked by lol 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
And when I say somthing like I'm doing this (like karate or something) She says Cool really sarcasticlly
2006-08-09 12:05:57 · update #1
If you two are such good friends, why do u feel the need to be better than her? If you are true friends, there shouldn't be any type of competiton there, between either of you.
Re-evaluate your friendship. Are you her friend because of her personality and her support, or are you her friend because she "makes u look good"?
2006-08-09 11:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both you and your friend are fiercely competitive. This is not necessarily a bad thing but you should at least recognize it in yourself. Ask yourself how you would feel if the positions were reversed? Would you think: I acted better, performed better in class, worked harder etc. therefore I deserve to be rewarded for that? There will always be people who are smarter and more talented than you are. I suggest you come to terms with that and rejoice in your friend's success.
2006-08-09 19:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person you should be in competition with is yourself. I perfectly understand how easy it is to compare yourself to another person to put value in winning but sometimes when we win, we lose. By taking parts/ classes you may not have wanted you'll actually expand your world.
As far as your friendship is concerned, maybe it's time to sit back and re-evaluate. Is she deliberately setting you up not to achieve your goals and does she ever support you in anything you've told her you'd like to do? A good friend would help you achieve whatever it is that you want to do that is within their power and that would not cause harm to you or to another.
Good luck!
2006-08-09 19:08:16 · answer #3 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end, by the time we all grow up, we all end up in the same spot. She's just hauling a s s to get there first. If she's just doing these things to one-up you, then let her. She obviously has an intense inferiority complex, and she feeds it by frustrating you. Just ignore it- don't give into it and give her the attention she's trying to garner by competing against you. You're better than that. Surround yourself with friends who are givers- not takers.
2006-08-09 19:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the question is, did she mean to be better than you in... almost everything(?). If she did, tell her how you feel about it! But the best thing for you to do, I think, is to give your best at everything you do. And you should realize that in this vast universe that we live in, there are other people better than us, better than you and certainly better than her. So get over it. :)
2006-08-09 19:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best words of advice are, "GET OVER IT!" You are unique. Don't compare yourself to anyone else. If I were you, I would find an new activity to do that your friend is not involved in. Make it your own. =)
2006-08-09 19:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by HygirL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
challenge her to something you know that your are way better at or just tell it like it is and tell her that you are happy for her but she doesnt need to steal the spotlight all the time tell her you want some spotlight too.
2006-08-09 19:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by iLaugh [a lot] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask me your already better at something.... Being a better friend. Good Luck with this hon
2006-08-09 18:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by Angel B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just way cooler than u .. u may need to fix up ya style
2006-08-09 19:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit back and watch her. See if there is something she hasn't tried yet and have a try at it first.
2006-08-09 18:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋