She's so out of the game.. and it's getting worse.. her game is far away from here in England or something(we're in sweden)! we're all losing her fast.. She's turned in to a ***** she lies to everybody, she wheres very small clothes and has like white-blonde hair.. She thinks I'm sucha geek..! What should I do? I can't leave her like this! She's mean to exactly evryone, and believe me.. NO ONE can talk to her!! help me..
2006-08-09 11:45:00 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-08-09 11:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is so mean to everyone, she probably has low self esteem. The tiny clothes would indicate that she reeeeaaaallly needs lots of attention, and she is putting forth what she considers to be her best (or only) asset.
She only thinks you are a geek because you're too strong for to her to make you just like her. It's easier to put you down then to raise herself up.
The way people treat others is a reflection of how they feel about themselves inside.
People will begin to realize this and begin to shun her.
I know that doesn't give you much satisfaction, but hang in there, and here's what you can do in the mean time to feel better....
Forgive her for being such an a*sshole, "she can't help it" because she she just doesn't have and better coping skills.
She is a pathological liar because she doesn't think she is that interesting. She might just be ashamed of herself, too. Most people lie because they are ashamed of their truths....
If she puts you down, say "I know you meant that in the nicest possible way, you sweetheart". Start calling her Sweetie. Pretend that you think she has the best of intentions. Kill her with kindness. Tell others to do the same. Tell her how pretty, smart, and nice she is.
Then start being less available to socailize with. Go out with other people. Don't give much energy to her anymore.
You will feel better for taking the high road and avoiding acting out your hurt and spiteful feelings.
Don't try to change or fix her. Accept her as she is, and avoid her. You have better things to do anyway.....
2006-08-09 19:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend to her and tell her that you value her friendship and have alot of time for her, but level with her too by telling her exactly what you think of her and how others percieve her as a B***h!. Tell her that you have risked loosing your friends by standing by her. Inform her that you want to remain friends with her, but not to treat you like an idiot and to disrespect your friendship in any way shape or form because you wont stand for it!. She may or may not respect you for this but at least you will have tried to meet her half way. If she does not agree to these terms then tell her sadly you can no longer remain her friend and a parting of the waves is for the best!, Try it on for size!.
2006-08-09 18:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
remind her of all the good times that yall had together and if she doesnt change then leave her alone i know how you feel but i have been through this to. let her go down if flames if she wants to when she ends up in jail or on the streets she will then regret not listing to you or anyone else that ways good.also if she has found different people to hang wit that are bad let her she will realize that she has made a horrible mistake
2006-08-09 19:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by iLaugh [a lot] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand. Out of what game? Losing her how? What does small clothes have to do with anything? If NO ONE can talk to her, what do you think you'll say to make a difference? Why don't you all just leave her alone? Lonliness can cure a lot sometimes.
2006-08-09 18:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do is put how you feel out there to her. Explain how you care and how she makes you feel with her dress and actions. Do not say you think she is good or bad. Only speak about how it makes YOU feel.
Then everything is on her. If she is unwilling to change then leave her alone and move on without her. Sorry that's the best I can offer to you.
2006-08-09 18:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg. i went through something simalar with my friend. were not as close as se were, but we're still there for each other. you need to sit her down and seriously talk to her, and if she gets all red and bothered, tell her that you will be there waiting for her if she ever wants help. just be there for her. if the friendship is ment to last then she will grow out of this phase(and for your sake and feelings, i hope she will)
2006-08-09 18:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by hear_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly you can help her. If she does not want to change then your not going to change her. You need to tell her how you feel and leave it at that, and cut ties from her, then she will find out who her true friends are
2006-08-09 18:50:07 · answer #8 · answered by XXXSyN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm... i have the same problem. well, HAD the same problem with this "friend". she's NOT a friend if she's mean to everyone. just leave her and hang out with other friends.
2006-08-09 18:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by xxazaleanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about her she aint nobody special u can find another friend who wont call you a geek
2006-08-09 18:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by Voncriss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋