She's so out of the game.. and it's getting worse.. her game is far away from here in England or something(we're in sweden)! we're all losing her fast.. She's turned in to a ***** she lies to everybody, she wheres very small clothes and has like white-blonde hair.. She thinks I'm sucha geek..! What should I do? I can't leave her like this! She's mean to exactly evryone, and believe me.. NO ONE can talk to her!! help me..
2006-08-09 11:32:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if you love your friend, set her free - leave her go her own way - she will soon realise who means more to her and has cared for her, and come back to you.
But if you think she seriously gone off her head, maybe you could try and help her get some counselling or summin...
2006-08-09 11:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by scorpion queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's evil, put a stake through her heart! >:-D
No, seriously, try again to talk to her. Ask her why she's started lying to everybody, and why she's changed so much. Tell her that you preferred the real her, when she was nice and friendly, before she became like this. Has she fallen in with a group of new friends at all? That's usually a reason people change, and they, unfortunately, are brainwashed by this new crowd, and leave their old friends behind.
Accept that you and her have grown apart. If she calls and tries to be friends again, proceed with caution. If she continues to be mean to you or your friends, just ignore her, and realise that this friendship is over.
It's sad when someone you know changes so radically you don't know them any more. But there are plenty of friends to make. Go and meet some new people! :)
2006-08-09 11:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound harsh, but the only one with the problem is you. You can't change someone, and either your trying to control what she wears or how she treats people for some sort of self pleasing control or you'd be smart enough to leave her alone.
The only person that can fix her is her. She has to make that choice to get help if something is making it hard for her to relate to people (in which case she may need a psychologist and some meds) or she is trying to push you out of her life on purpose so she don't have to tell you to your face hey I can't stand you leave me alone.
2006-08-09 11:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by daddyssoccermom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love your friend but, gotta do tough love. Let them go out there and experience that life they wanna have and take all them risks if they so dare to cross that line.
She wanna manipulate y'all for the attention anyway, so when you take it away, she'll go and act like she'll cross that line. It may mean go and hoe herself on the streets, drugs, whatever. If you tell her what her two possible life choices are (Straighten up, do good, get good grades, get on good graces with your family and have a positive future, or go out into the streets to live on your own with your lifestyle now, and end up on drugs or a hoe or in the prison system) Then you won't have to beat yourself up, because you will have made her aware of her choices, and the burden will be completely on her. And you have to make it that way by not constantly thinking about it either after she makes whatever choice.
Now she'll feel like she's really on her own this time, 'cause she's probably to you all fallin' to pieces over her issues, and not her dealing with it herself. If she realizes she don't really know what the hell she's doin, fear may set into her, and she may come back.
Otherwise, let her experience it for herself and she'll learn the hard way and come back. If she don't come back, you still gotta look out for you, sometimes you just gotta let people go. It sounds harsh, but, you'll drive yourself crazy with other people's issues, sometimes, you just gotta do you.
And don't let her be mean to you either. Have a limit. Tell her she crossed it. Tell her what she has to do and be like, to be your friend again(concrete rules, write them down.) And tell her the two options/pathways for her life, and send her on. Don't associate with her no more 'till she respects your rules, or you'll babify her again and then she'll manipulate you.
She needs to find out how good her friends really are, one way or the other!
2006-08-09 11:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by bun223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone and let her get on with it.She will soon realise that wen she has lost all of her friends and family from being lthis way i'm sure she will change back to her normal self again
2006-08-09 11:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by jomom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im afraid you cant help someone unless they want to help themselves..this is a sad fact of life..i no it must be hard to sit back and watch..but maybe cut down on contact with her and see does she even notice..if she asks why tell her exactly..hope it helps you
2006-08-09 11:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by asha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋