Just curious as to other people's opinions on this.
2006-08-09 11:25:01 · 15 answers · asked by bgall 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks all for all of your great answers. I am not married myself (never have been), but know of two people who might be on their way to commiting adultery/cheating, so I was curious and knew very little in this area.
Thank you all very much! I will keep this all in mind. This friend of mine confided in me so I wanted to think of some things to possibly say, or if not even to say anything, just to listen.
Thanks! :)
2006-08-09 15:17:42 · update #1
It starts by making a choice not to choose your partner over someone else. To me being faithful is choosing your partner when a new "opportunity" comes along and choosing them over and over and over again. All it takes is for one time to choose someone else and you are a cheater. It seems simple...and it is.
I think it begins by thinking about what the person would be like, then seeing if they feel the same way, then it escalates from there. Definitely placing yourself in a situation where something can happen moves things along as well. It's about boundaries, having them and sticking to them. If you can't...you have no business being in a relationship and/or married.
2006-08-09 12:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think flattery conversation and flirting is the start of an adulterous affair. One must certainly watch how they behave around the opposite sex. Dinners also provide an inviting place for adultery because it is usually relaxing. Do not talk personal problems with the opposite sex save that for your spouse. Want to keep adultery out of life. Spice up things at home. Have an affair with your spouse. If you have communication problems seek counseling to help. But on all accounts if you find yourself in a sticky situation RUN RUN RUN because you will reap what you sow.
2006-08-09 11:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by Charlene W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it truly is a scripture that has been so misunderstood between christians yet i am going to allow you to recognize that Jesus did not allow you to recognize that if you're lusting after someone you're an adulterer. you could examine the passage to work out that Jesus replaced into telling the Pharisee specially, that the doctrine is replacing. some human beings even say if a unmarried guy is searching at woman to lust it truly is a sin , now the question should be; how do someone get married? merely close your eyes and p.c.. someone. fornication or adultery is once you actual have sex, actual.
2016-11-23 18:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by pavoni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who cheat are usually the ones who go looking for opportunities to do it with someone who are willing. They are people in their lives such as co-workers, sales persons, close friends, children's teachers, tuitors, baby-sitters, maids, helpers, secretaries, ...anyone they come in contact with. They are usually not total strangers. They do it because they are lustful and it massages their egos. It makes them feel powerful that they can still attract the opposite sex inspite of being married and they are proud of doing it. They feel they are great that they CAN do it and CAN get away with it. They take great pride in denying and managing to sooth their spouse with lies and convince them they are not doing it. They take pride in committing adultery and keeping the wife in the dark at the same time. To them that is success.
2006-08-10 05:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well one thing I know is that if someone forces themselves on to you, then that is not adultery...there's another name for that.
I worked with a bunch of construction men several of whom cheated on their wives and actually loved to brag about it...as if it was something to be proud of...they were just big spoiled selfish babies now that I look back...I bet their wives knew too...but then again some women don't care as long as they are "well kept" they are probably cheating themselves, or else just very miserable.
2006-08-09 11:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it starts off like all things as an attraction then the party just carries out the deed!
2006-08-09 11:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It starts with frequent exposure to the person they're attracted to, whether that person's a co-worker or a close friend. The attraction becomes intimacy then it becomes physical.
2006-08-09 11:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daydreaming of the other person because of how good they make you feel on the inside. My ex would always tell me what improvements I needed to make in order to make him happy. This one guy at work would always stare at me whenever I walked passed him. I would always blush because no one would ever look at me w/passion and desire the way this guy did. then comes the flirtation then the sex.
2006-08-09 11:36:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not an opinion on this situation, you either cheat or not, and if you do you've committed adultery.
2006-08-09 11:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents do it cause there husbands never pay attention or do anything to them. So they find someone else with more romance sex and exitment.
2006-08-09 11:40:11 · answer #10 · answered by Annie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋