When will the pain go away?

Question

I was raped a year and a half ago before I turned 15. even though my rapist is in prision and has been prosectued. I still feel ashemed and hurt.

Gabs i would never forget my rapist. I hate him. I hope he dies in prision.

Answer 1

http://www.geocities.com/survivorsinhealing/

My sister and I have been through alot and we have made a web page just for people who have been raped abused and molested..Check it out, I think it may be helpful to you

Answer 2

It'll go away when you are ready to move on with your life. Right now is a confusing time of life anyway and you have way too much to think about for you to really rest easy yet. One day though, and I hope it is soon, you will decide to stop punishing yourself for what happened to you and stop letting him live rent free inside your head. You won't even notice it when it happens because it's a gradual change for the most part, but you'll wake up one morning and go through your day without even sparing a single thought about it. You'll always remember it and sometimes you'll want to feel sorry for yourself, or drift into angry spells...that's just the way it is for us...who have had our personal power taken away at some point...but it will get better, I promise!

Answer 3

Oh Sunshine, I am so sorry for you. I hope that the pain goes away. I am sure it was certainly a terrible experience and you may never forget it.

I hope that you can come to a place where the pain lessens overtime and eventually just becomes something that you may think about from time to time without the intense feelings you have now.

Answer 4

I don't know I never been raped. You should not wish that people would died. Thats the same as trying to bring a curse upon someone.

"Nobody knew about her secret so it took a while
I could see a tear fall slow down her black cheek
Sheddin quiet tears in the back seat; so when she asked me,
"What would you do if it was you?"
Couldn't answer such a horrible pain to live through
I tried to trade places in the tragedy
I couldn't picture three crazed ****** grabbin me
For just a moment I was trapped in the pain, Lord come and take me
Four ****** violated, they chased and they raped me
Even though it wasn't me, I could feel the grief
THINKIN WITH YOUR BRAINS BLOWN THAT WOULD MAKE THE PAIN GO. NO! YOU GOT TO FIND AWAY TO SURVIVE BECAUSE THEY WIN WHEN YOUR SOUL DIES"

TuPac was right you have to find away to survive because he will win when you soul died.

Answer 5

Never. Your idea, what was given to you through experience was one sided. Then someone comes and completely destroys that positivity that takes so much time to grow. As much a shame as it may be to be human now, it is the rapist who did the evil deed. My inclination is to become sadistically punitive to the rapist, but that would only degrade me as a human, the destruction of positivity. It is time to learn again and positively know, scientifically, the evil doers degradation, to learn how to negate the negation through imposition for good.

Answer 6

I was raped on my 13th birthday by my brothers friend. I felt the same as you. It takes time to get over being violated like that. But it is not impossible. Find a support group or get some councling they will help you find ways to deal with this grief. Stay up my sister

Answer 7

You have nothing to be ashamed of. Everyone heals differently, so just move on with your life and forgive the rapist of his crime if you can. The things that we hold on to are the things that keep us stuck. Let go of the past, and embrace the future with a clean conscience.

Answer 8

You probably will always hurt a little but you should surround yourself with people that you know love you and just be happy he's in jail my best friend was raped when she was 11 and the guy was never caught and her mom won't help her

Answer 9

girlie, the pain is there to stay....the best thing you can do is try and build up your own self respect and love....its hard after something like this, but you, in order to move on with your life, need to learn that this horrible event does NOT define you...you are so much more than what was done to u...it'll take a while, but with the help of family and friends, you'll be able to love urself and let go of this demon that did this to u....may God bless you in your endeavors and guide you to happiness

Answer 10

I WAS RAPED WHEN I WAS 16 I DONT THINK ITS SOMETHING U GET OVER OR EVEN FORGET BUT IT DOES MAKE U A STRONGER PERSON. MY RAPIST WAS NEVER CAUGHT ITS HORRIBLE TO HAVE TO LOOK OVER YOURE SHOULDER. BUT I PROMISE U IT WILL GET BETTER AND U HAVE NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OFF.