when you accidentilly became pregnant what did u do wrong that caused your pregnancy?

Question

i just want to know b/c my boyfriend wants to take our relationship to the next level but im so scared i'll get pregnant and basically that's the only reason it's not happening b/c everyone i know is getting pregnant

ya'll my boyfriend is not presuring me to do it he said he'd wait but as time goes by i want to more i ment what i said when u accidentilly became pregnant what did u do wrong u people aren't answering my question. oh by the way im 18

Answer 1

First off, there is no "accidentally" getting pregnant; the action preceding pregnancy (disregarding rape) is a volitional act. As with anything else in this world you accept the potential consequences of your actions or you don't do the action.

Use a condom. The Pill if you can get it. Consider alternatives to vaginal sex. And above all, don't let someone talk you into something you don't want to do.

Answer 2

There is not something that someone does "wrong" to get pregnant - you can be on birth control pills and have a condom and still get pregnant - because no method of protection works 100%. It just happens. However you need to think for yourself and not just to please your boyfriend. Are you ready for sex? Are you ready for everything that come from sex like a baby, an Sexually Transmitted Disease, heartbreak? I say heartbreak because most young relationships will be over within 5 years - meaning (I hate to be the bad guy) the guy you are dating now will probably not be the person you wind up marrying. If you don't feel you are ready or you are not sure - than don't do it. The way you can 100% protect yourself from getting pregnant is by not having sex.

Answer 3

I have never gotten pregnant "accidently," but I definitely know people who have and I'd say that 99% of the time, it happened because the couple didn't want to take the time to use protection or were "caught up in the moment" and didn't take the time to use protection. I also know cases of women who got pregnant because they weren't taking their birth control like they were supposed to (or were on antibiotics and didn't use any other form of protection). If you're not ready to have sex, don't! Don't let your boyfriend pressure or talk you into it if you're not ready. You WILL regret it if you're not ready! There are ways to decrease the chances of pregnancy, but NOTHING but abstinence works 100%! If you do feel like you're ready to have sex, you need to find something that works for you to prevent pregnancy, whether it be birth control pills, Depo-, condom and spermicide, diaphragm, etc. If you do opt for the pill, you need to be on it for at least a month before having unprotected sex and you HAVE to take it faithfully, every day at the same time, no excuses. It'd also be good to use something else, like a condom (correctly!)with spermicide, just in case, because even the pill isn't 100% effective in preventing pregnancy (and we all know it doesn't prevent the transmission of STDs).

Answer 4

The best answer is abstinence, but that isn't what you want to hear. If you want to avoid pregnancy, the more things you do to prevent the less likely. But there is always a slight chance.

1) Use a condom, and make sure BOTH of you know how to use it properly.
2) Birth control pills.
3) Avoid having sex at times of the month that ovulation is high.

(optional) engage in extra-vaginal sex. (such as oral. do NOT let him do anal with this suggestion. It can screw up your bowel system)

Answer 5

if you want to have sex go on birth control. make sure you are on it faithfully and correctly for AT LEAST two months. by faithfully and correctly i mean take your pill the same time very day. i do not recommend the patch as it tends to fall off and this can effect how well you are protected. the ring isn't a good option for you as you may have qualms about sticking your fingers in yourself and the shot can cause infertility in young people. go to planned parenthood it's free and confidential and they won't tell your parents. after you are on BC for two months or even more you can begin to have sex, but use a condom EVERY SINGLE TIME!!!!!!!!!! i cannot stress this enough. i know so many people who were on birth control and they went without a condom ONCE and got pregnant. and once your bf does it without a condom he won't want to do it with one again. you may not notice a difference. but don't tell him this or he may be curious and want to try it. i personally think you should talk to your mom about this too. if i could go back i would have talked to my mom about sex before i did it, and told her once i started.

but about my accident... well the condom broke and i wasn't on BC cuz i hadn't told my mom so i wasn't able to get it because i had no ride and no time. i probably could have gotten emergency contraception but i didn't want to tell my mom and i had accidents before and never got pregnant so i thought i was invincible. but now, a year and 8 months later looking at my adorable, pefect little angel of an 11 month old boy, i don't regret it. even though his father is a real asshole and doesn't pay child support and left me for another woman, i still adore my son and wouldn't trade him for the world.

but if i were you i would wait until i was married and save myslef alot of heartbreak and trouble. i wish i had waited. and alot of people will tell you the same thing. if your bf loves you he will rspect you for whatever decision you want to make. good luck and follow your heart, not your...um... yeah.

Answer 6

You should never have sex if you don't want to. Don't ever let anybody pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. Basically, the only way to guarantee that you don't get pregnant is to not have sex. Even the best method of birth control is not 100% effective.

You do what is best for you. If your boyfriend is really into you, he won't pressure you.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Don't do it unless your ready bill control and protection are never all the way fool proof a condmn if isn't used corectly it only helps 85% so the only way you wont is to not have it and the pull out method doesn't work .

Answer 8

Wait wait wait. Do not have sex with him at all if you are not ready for a baby. Birth control is never 100%, why take the chance.

Answer 9

Go on the pill, use condoms, have him pull out
Do any of these (don't do the pull out alone)
If you want to be super safe, DO THEM ALL AT ONCE
oh and if something happens on accident, go get the morning after pill...

Answer 10

Honey, there are no accidents when it comes to getting pregnant. There is simply black and white, no grey. You make a conscience choice to either use birth control or not.