i have marks on my wrists from where he holds me down on the bed. women are treated very bad in my country. can you tell me in much detail how i fight him off? i want to give him such pain he will never do this again.
2006-08-09 10:42:06 · 31 answers · asked by laura b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i cannot leave or report him because i would be left without a home. my mother she lives many miles away. i want to make him understand i will hurt BAD him if he forces me.
2006-08-09 10:48:13 · update #1
Get out and get as far away from this man as you can. Any man that forces himself on a woman isn't a man. You are in a situation that could become very violent and you are putting yourself at risk. Seek the help of family or clergy or a shelter, but get out, then move on with your life but without him.
2006-08-09 10:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by tigerpaws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...this all depends on what country you're in and what legal means you have at your disposal. Is this man simply your partner or is it your husband? In some countries, especially those with deep set religious customs (i.e. Muslim for example) this might make your case more difficult.
If this man is simply a partner, then leave him.
If he is your husband and you can communicate with him at all, show him the marks he has made and tell him to be more gentle. Or next time you see a doctor, show the marks to your doctor. Preferably a woman doctor!
2006-08-09 17:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of that relationship, if possible. If you fought back, would he hurt you further? Most men won't stop, even if you fight your hardest. Is there a relative you could stay with, a mom or a sister, who would let you stay for awhile? If you are convinced that he would stop if you fought him off, you might try learning karate or other martial arts. That would give you an edge against him. There are lots of websites that can help you learn self defense.
I hope everything works out for you, and feel free to email me if you need to.
2006-08-09 17:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE THE S.O.B!!! NO ONE and I mean NO ONE deserves to be treated in this manner no matter what country or culture you come from! Tell him that his manner scares you and that you do not like it. Tell him that you enjoy sex with him (ONLY if you do) but you do not want him to be dominate of you. If he doesn't listen to you, break it off, kick him out or leave. Get help from a local women's shelter if needed or help from the police. but something that does hurt is if you have some kind of muscle rub (ben gay, flexall, deep heat, anything menthol like) and get it anywhere on his member or his boys, it will burn like hell! But if you give him pain, he may hurt you, so just leave him!
2006-08-09 17:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by glendonite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him as soon as possible, and don't look back, because things will only get worse as time passes. I am not sure what country you are from, but here in the US there are alot of organizations that help you for free with domestic violence issues, including the local police departments.
2006-08-09 17:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by ms_naughtilee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is only my opinion but i think you should ask yourself three questions. 1. do you like to be forced to do things you don't want to do? 2. do you like the pain he inflicts upon you? 3. do you feel you deserve to be treated that way? if you answered no to all of these questions it is time for you to get out of this relationship. At this point it is your choice to stay an be abused, or to go and live. Eventually it will get continuously worse. it doesn't matter what state you are in there is help out there for you. no, it might not be easy but it can be done. get out of that sweetheart, you don't deserve to be treated like that.
2006-08-09 18:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are lying. Considering you just joined today and you asked this question about 5 times already in all different categories. I think you are just doing it to get enjoyment from people freaking out. Get a hobby or something weirdo. IF you are telling the truth then hit him where the sun don't shine.
2006-08-09 17:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by Luekas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your country may not have any laws against that but In the US its called marital rape if you are married.
Perhaps you should find another partner.
Contact some women's advocacy groups in your area they might be able to help you start a new life without him.
2006-08-09 17:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to leave him and seek sanctuary someplace safe. Not sure what country you are in, but start quietly researching a place to flee. By the way, even if you hurt him, it won't stop him, he will escalate the force.
2006-08-09 17:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you heard of a woman named Lorena Bobbit? don't throw "it" out of the window as you speed down the highway, though. put the "piece" in a sausage maker or some kind of grinder. then when the cops/authorities come to question you about the "situation" offer to make them a juicy burger from the fresh ground "beef" you'll have readily available
2006-08-09 17:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋