i have marks on my wrists from where he holds me down on the bed. women are treated very bad in my country. can you tell me in much detail how i fight him off? i want to give him such pain he will never do this again.
2006-08-09 10:41:08 · 38 answers · asked by laura b 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
i cannot leave or report him because i would be left without a home. my mother she lives many miles away. i want to make him understand i will hurt him if he forces me.
2006-08-09 10:47:28 · update #1
where do you live? is it in the USA? if it's in an arabic country or somewhere else if you ight him off he'll hurt you or even kill you...contact me if you want
2006-08-09 10:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my country, unwanted act such as this is considered rape. In my country this is unacceptable. This is a very bad situation. It is bad because it is not merely for his pleasure but rather a control issue. He enjoys his domination over you. I'm not sure if causing him pain would be enough to make him understand. Causing him pain may lead him to harm you more. But it is not right for you to have to endure this horrible treatment. If you feel your life is in danger than you must protect yourself. The genitals are a good target. Make sure you hurt him good and put him to the ground, otherwise he may get up and try to inflict harm to you in an act of vengeance. Remember above all is you must find a way to leave, once you resist he may try to gain dominance over you again. If he does in fact try to end your life, be sure that it is the last thing he tries to do............
2006-08-09 11:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by amish_renegade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell me what country you are from, that will help me and others better and more realistically answer your question. To start with, is he violent with you in other aspects of sex? is he harsh or violent towards you in daily life, say, during dinner or other regular household moments that you may spend together? You are right to understand that he should not be treating you this way, good for you!
I am tempted to say, that if you are looking for a way to fight him off, the easiest thing to do would be to bite down, and HARD. This would be extremely effective! and any sane man would not attempt oral sex again with that response! however, if you are married to him, or are afraid of retaliation that could threaten your safety, then that may not be the right course. Can you give more information about your situation?
2006-08-09 10:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Syrene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're going through that. Nobody should have to. Leave him if you can. Or call the police. Can you do that where you live? Are there any protection laws? But I'm not sure I'd advise you to hurt him, honey, because chances are really good that anything you do to him will only make him angrier and that much determined to hurt you again.
2006-08-09 10:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CAN report him. You call the cops the next time you are alone show them the wounds. They will make HIM stay out. That is sposal abuse if you get fresh wounds when he is there call 911 and he can have a nice night in jail, change the locks keep the house and get rid of the louse!
2006-08-09 11:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by admiralgill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are smack-dab in the middle of an abusive relationship. If you don't get out, it will become worse.
I don't know which country you live in, and what the social structure is in your country...but regardless of this, if you stay in the relationship it WILL get worse, much worse. You can't change him, and hurting him will only anger him making him more dangerous.
If you are able, leave now, and don't look back.
2006-08-09 10:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by rhubarb3142 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him right away you don't deserve to be putting yourself through such misery, no one deserves that. You will find someone who respects you and will take care of you not someone who is just saying he cares. Actions speak louder than words.
2006-08-09 10:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would've said talk to him but it doesnt sound like he's the type that will listen to reason. Next time you're doing something, kick him hard where it hurts and pretend it was a reaction to pleasure - that will make him think.
2006-08-09 10:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by sonalfemme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, I CANNOT stress this enough, GET OUT OF THE SITUATION!!!!!!!!!!! If he can't respect that fact that you say no, you should think about breaking it off with him, if he goes as far to FORCE you, thats rape, CALL THE COPS!!! tell them there is some loser who forces you to do stuff with him, they'll put his desperate butt in jail faster then it prolly takes for him to get off. Umm, I have a question, HOW exactly does he force you, if you dont mind me asking.
2006-08-09 10:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him - pronto. And report him to the police. You have evidence on your wrists (and other places). It will be easy for procecution. As easy at it sounds, don't harm him phyically, it will weaken your case against him.
Oh yea, I am a guy.
2006-08-09 11:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by bblond1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is RAPE in any country!!!!! You have to find a way to leave.... What happens when you have children and it goes from him forceing you to suck him off to him being inappropriate to your children... It will be to late for regrets then... Get out go to a shelter find a friend. i think if you have it in you to fight him you have it in you to leave him!!!
2006-08-09 10:53:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋