I have 2 kids already, 15 and 9. I just found out Im pregnant. This was REALLY unexpected and I dont know how to tell my kids. My daughter was just saying a couple of months ago that she was so happy she has no more siblings, and never will again! How do I break it to them that I had "it" and Im having a baby?
2006-08-09 10:36:08 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
They will love the idea... take everyone out to dinner and make it a celebration
2006-08-09 10:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be straight forward. You should do it soon because you don't want them to find out from someone else. When I was 16 and my sister was 14 and my other sister was 11 my mom had to tell us that she was pregnant and having a baby. At first we were shocked and acting like we didn't want anymore siblings. But now it is all good. I'm like a second mom to my little sis who is now 6 years old and I wouldn't trade her for anything in the world.
2006-08-09 10:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by Vero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better make it quick! i am the oldest of 7... when my mother told me that she was pregnant the last 2 times, i got a huge attitude. in fact, i left home and lived with my aunt and uncle. i close to all my 6 brothers now but i didn't want them. there is a 17 year age difference between me and the baby. she procrastinated to tell me about the last one because how i reacted to baby #6.
also, my god-mother just had a new baby and her kids are 20 and 13! and they are both super spoiled! it's gonna be a serious adjustment no matter what. especially if they don't want or expect another sibling.
try not to expect them to be responsible for your child. a lot of parents utilize or expect to be able to utilize their older children as baby sitters and "substitute" parents while that isn't really their responsibility. you will push your children away with causing them an obligation that is truely your own. they should help but don't depend on them.
2006-08-09 10:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by spreejo456 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have no choice but to tell them straight out that you are going to have a baby. Explain to them that you were not planning on having one but these things happen and you will probably get your tubes tied or practice better birth control methods. This is the only thing you can do. Tell them before someone else does. Besides they make take the news better than you think. Good luck and congratulations.
2006-08-09 10:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them? How is it complicated? You cant stop it from happening, you cant take it back.
You rainsed them to be functional people certainly they have a capacity for loving a new sibling and can be excited about it.
Dont project your own insecurities and fears into the situation, just tell them. Its not a bad thing, its a good thing, children are awesome, having them is great. You should present it in that manner.
2006-08-09 10:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "Hey kids, I need to talk to you about something really important and I don't know how you're going to take it. I want you to know that the 2 best days of my life were when I had the two of you. Well, in a couple of months, I going to have another best day of my life." Smile sweetly and come up with a tear or two.
2006-08-09 10:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by Padme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i don't think u need to tell them the details of what u did to get the baby, just sit them down and tell them that you ARE pregnant and that it was unexpected. if they didn't want another sibling, than im sorry to say, but thats their problem...you are the one in control, not them. they'll get used to it...and ur daughter was probably just speaking out of anger or immaturity...they'll warm up to the idea of another sibling...how bad can it be?
2006-08-09 10:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by PrYncEsSa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had "it"??? Are you worried that your kids will be embarrassed that you had sex? It's a natural fact of life, you know. If you're happy about having another baby, just tell your kids that. Tell them that life will be a bit different at first, but everyone will adjust. Just don't ask them to change diapers too often!
2006-08-09 10:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want it light and funny, it is all in the delivery. I suggest you practice saying the following before you actually do it:
"Hi everyone, I have gathered all of you here because I have a terrible news to say...(pause, look sad and stare downwards). I came back from the doctor and found something out...(pause)...It is something serious and might change our lives together....I have CANCER! (let them take this all in, check their reaction but continue to act out sad)...(then after a while say this...) Joke, joke, joke! I`m just pregnant...AGAIN!"
They will even be relieved, I suppose.
2006-08-09 10:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by Joy RP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i already had 3 boys when i had my fourth i was so scared to tell them only because the first two didn't want the third and when the fourth came along the third was not happy:) so i didn't say nothing on my fourth till i was already like 7 months. he wasn't happy but now he loves his Little brother so much and said i better not consider doing this again so I'm debating weather i should tell him now about # five now or when i go to deliver :)
2006-08-09 10:43:48 · answer #10 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them, they will soon come round and they will probably start to look forward to the big day. My kids were 10 and 12 when I got pregnant 3rd time they were really excited, and just think you will soon have a ready made babysitter :-)
2006-08-09 10:44:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋