it started when one of my friends told this boy that i like him they all started making fun of me and i stopped talking and hoped that they would just leave me alone this happed 7 years ago.. what should i do
2006-08-09 10:30:04 · 14 answers · asked by Ash 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I used to be really shy in school too. I decided one day that I would stop being shy and force myself to be outgoing. It actually worked. People were confused at first and asked me why I was smiling at them or talking to them, but after a couple weeks it was normal. Just remember that EVERYBODY your age is insecure about something, and EVERYBODY gets teased about something at some point.
2006-08-09 10:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by magerk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all that so call friend was not your friend. You need to not let that stuff bother you and just be yourself the heck with what other people thing. If you care what other people think all the time your going to miss out on alot of fun stuff just get out there and have some fun make some new friends remember your not a child any more grade school is over. Be a leader not like everyone else.
2006-08-09 17:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by spicy girl 1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open and willing to interact with others. You may have had a bad experience in the past where you felt your trust was betrayed but dont let that determine your future and present relationships with others. Have some faith in others and yourself. Be friendly, have you ever noticed if somebody smiles at you or says hi to you on the way to class how infectious that can be and lift your spirits. If someone tries to talk with you try to make an effort to start a conversation with them, even just saying hi and making eye contact. Be yourself and see where the conversation goes, and try to have fun.
2006-08-09 17:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by cocoabundle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tend more to introversion. This is part of your personality and not a "skill" to work at changing. At home and with your friends you are more aware of peoples likes and dislikes and this allows you to be more open.
People who are introverted spend energy interacting with strangers and groups, as your mind is constantly working to identify what is going on. Extroverts gain energy from interacting with strangers and groups because they just automatically process this info.
If you want to be more comfortable in these types of social situations, make sure you get adequate time alone to recharge between events, or you will "tune out" and become awkward. Also, watch how other introverts interact with strangers and model your behavior on them. Don't try to be "the life of the party", it will exhaust you. You are unlikely to ever be as free in public as you are in private - but you don't have to be awkward and uncomfortable, either.
2006-08-11 12:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by oohhbother 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join a group like toastmasters.
Get a job where you have to talk to strangers.
Get a peice of paper and write down some questions that you can ask like ... have you seen any good movies, How about this weather etc etc.
People love to talk about themselves. Just learn to listen :)
2006-08-09 17:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by sickpuppee82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to stop being shy or stop talking to your friends and family. Just forget about what happened then, don't take yourself and others so seriously, and be yourself without being a jerk. You'll open up and people will enjoy being around you.
2006-08-09 17:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with being a talker as long as everyone around you enjoys it, but as for me; people respect me better and give more attention when I,m quiet, even my children ,so I must suck at talking. I have a friend however who has the gift of gab, if he were to shut up we,d all be lost, if you have it; then flaunt it!. unfortunately I don,t
2006-08-09 17:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by DeRoy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you sound a lot like me. I've been "shy" my entire life. The only advice I can give to you, is what I can give myself. Start out small, find at least one person to talk to, maybe introduce yourself. Good luck.
2006-08-09 17:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of your comfort zone do things that make you feel uncomfortable, like starting up conversations with complete strangers.
2006-08-09 18:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL 4 GET ABOUT DAT IT HAPPEN 7 YEARS AGO SO JUST 4GET ABOUTD DAT AN JUST START TALK NOW NO BOY CAN BRING YOU DOWN
2006-08-09 17:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by Dadley Haitian 4 Lyfe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋