How do I deal with my fiance's ex-wife having a drug problem and being a drug dealer when he refuses to believe she has anything at all to do with it? Might I add they have two young children which he has full custody of through the court systems, and he continues to help her out finacially because he doesn't want to see the mother of his children living on the streets. (He will never believe she has a problem until she is caught red handed.)
2006-08-09 10:21:53 · 15 answers · asked by mixemup 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You deal with it by thinking seriously about whether to marry this guy or not!! Come on he's still supporting his lame ex wife and can't see her for what she is THAT IS A CLUE. Why on earth would you even consider marrying someone who still has these kinds of ties with an ex?? That relationship is NOT done and if you sign on for this you deserve whatever bs you put up with because of it. Common sense would be really helpful in this situation. Seriously, how would it work for him if you were still supporting your ex? Do you really want money taken away from your life together in order to make sure his ex wife doesn't live on the streets, the fact is he shouldn't care and is only enabling her to continue to be a moron. WAKE UP!!
2006-08-09 10:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well until he has proof that she is a drug dealer or has a problem there is not much you can do. But if she is a drug dealer she should not need his money. If the children are in danger you could call child protective service and tell them but make real sure your accusation's are right before doing this.
2006-08-09 17:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He`s got the savior complex it gives him a certain amount of comfort to still be available to her and a little guilty also because he has custody of the kids when normally its the woman that will get it,so this is his way of not being totally the bad guy.hopefully he will wake up and move on.
2006-08-09 17:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by aminuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see that this is causing problems and it is going to cause even more if you get married. You either need to tell him that he needs to pull his head out or you will leave. I would be overly pissed if my husband paid for his ex-wife financially. If he wants her caught red handed then call the cops on her and watch her get locked up. Good thing the kids arent with her.
2006-08-09 17:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by i_lovethis_bar03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if she is a drug addict and he is providing her with money than he is half her problem. The children should never be able to be alone with her. Supervised visits only!! "YOUR" husband should not be this involved with his ex. Sound like his ex needs an intervention
2006-08-09 17:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by Not Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why u gotta deal with his ex's at all i mean she is an ex..i mean set her up already n get her busted n then see what happens plant some of them drugs in her car n call in a tip n then when she gets caught poof ur done with her or u can start leaving notes on his car (ur mans) sayin stuff to her (the ex) like " i know u got my money or my drugs by now, if u dont then i might have to hurt u and ur kids to show u i mean business" that one should get ur man to sit up n take notice n get something bout her done..it may be mean but u got to do what u got to do to get rid of her already.. do u understand where i am goin with this now? u do want to get rid of her dont u? then get to doin it
2006-08-09 17:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has full custody of the kids, I really don't think that you should even be concerned with this woman. If he chooses not to believe you, then let him.
2006-08-09 17:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should call the state and leave an anonymous tips about her bad habits. It's what's best for the kids!
Good luck.
2006-08-09 17:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~*~*Jenny Anne~*~*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand back and let him believe what he wants. If she lands herself in prison he'll either see the truth or cry that she was framed.
2006-08-09 17:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is still in love with his ex wife. He may say he does not but his actions tell other wise.
2006-08-09 17:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by HastyBabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋