My husbands son came to live with us 4 years ago (at age 14) after repeated problems with the law and ending up in juvenile hall we tried really hard to steer him on to the right path and provided him w/everything so he wouldn't want for anything, but 1 year after he came he conspired with another student to steal a teachers purse this was his 3rd offense of theft (with us) so he was expelled. After hard work, pleading with the school board and counseling he was let back in and graduated - Now we discovered he's been stealing from my Dad who is retired and almost 80 years old -on 3 occasions that we know of. After a heated talk with him My husband comes home the next day to discover him in bed with a 16 yr old in his room, and some complete strangers (also teenagers) fornicating in our guestroom after another heated talk he showed no remorse nor did he apologize, so we asked him to leave - we thought he might plead his case but he went upstairs packed and left without a word.
2006-08-09 10:18:25 · 6 answers · asked by dee dee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You did the right thing by accepting him into your home and giving him multiple chances. He is fortunate to have you as a good example, since he is surrounded with so many bad examples. You did the right thing to let him leave. If he stays, your next option is to call the police for his theft of grandpa's cash. Also, if you allow him to be in your home and have sex with a 16 yr old, you are associating yourself with a rapist. 16 is Statutory Rape in most states. Don't give in, don't call him, don't email him. Set the rules for his return to your lives, but never let him live there again. Good luck
2006-08-09 10:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband have done everything you can for him. I would have called the police when I found out he had been stealing from my elderly father. Sounds like jailtime would do this boy good. Maybe someday he will learn to appreciate the kindness the two of you have shown him. I hope he comes back to you with remorse.
You were right to tell him to leave.
2006-08-09 10:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by Spiked Coffee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called tough love. My mom had to do that with my brother when he was abusing drugs and also stealing. It doesn't make you feel good, but it will be for the better of the household. He'll learn, believe me, my brother did. It took him a while, but he eventually came to his senses when he ended up in jail for about 6 months.
2006-08-09 10:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he is 18 and after everything he has done I would say good riddance BUT...He is your husbands son,, and yes he has done some terrible things. So Why not let him stay away for however long he is and then I would talk with him
2006-08-09 10:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right to let him go. It hurts, but it is the right thing. A high school grad that will not respect others needs to be on his own, paying his own way, and busted if he steals from ANYONE.
That means you may have to call the police on him and put him away. Life is not fair. . . but you do not have to be on the receiving eend of abuse and lying.
2006-08-09 10:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's 18 now? He needed to go for sure.
2006-08-09 10:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by teachinmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋