Has anybody ever had there BABY pass away? If so how did you deal with it?

Question

LIKE HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THE PASSING OF A LOVED ONE ESPECIALLY A CHILD. MY BABY WAS ONLY 8 AND A HALF MONTHS OLD THE SWEETEST BABY EVER. I JUST WANT TO KNOW IF ANYBODY ELSE HAS WENT THREW THAT AND HOW DID THEY HANDELD IT AND WHAT KINDS OF THINGS DID THEY DO ABOUT IT?

Answer 1

We lost our child at 6 months old. Everyone grieves differently. We had another child that was 3 years old and we focused on that wonderful child and we learned to be grateful for what we had. However, what works for one may not work for another. If you and your family are having difficulty please consider and help group or talking to a qualified doctor.

I am sorry for your loss and I wish you happiness in the years to come.

Answer 2

Hi! First off I want to tell you how sorry I am for your loss! I do know how you feel (sort of). I carried my son full term and had a C-section and 2 hours later he passed away. He had a disease called Polycystic Kidney disease. It was diagnosed through ultrasounds, but he was hanging in there. Doctors said he would pass before he was born, but he was born and said his hello's and goodbye's to the entire family (except his 3 yr old brother). I was tore up. I was only 20, my fiancee was 22, and we didn't know how to react. The biggest problem is that since I had a c-section, I had to stay in the hospital. They kept me on the maternity floor and all day/night I heard babies crying and was ready to do something really stupid. THe only thing that kept me going was my oldest son. I had so much support through my family, and local people. A local funeral home donated everything they could and the rest of the funeral was paid for by a pregnancy assited center. They told me that I would be unable to have anymore children due to this disease. Well, I am now pregnant again, everything is going great with the baby. Having a c-section on Oct.3.

Answer 3

I understand how you feel. Find it a blessing you were able to spend those 8 months, to hold the baby to know your baby. I had a stillborn. Went completely through the full term and delivered naturally to a baby that I never had the honor of looking into his eyes. I never knew his cry. It was verrrry hard naturally to lose someone so close to you. I did not moarn his death I went straigt back to work 2 days later because I did not want to be in the house. People thought I was crazy for doing that, but it helped me get my mind off of it as much as possible. I do recommend you mourning, if u dont u will later. I thought I could help u with this but its hurting to go into detail. I wish u the best.

Answer 4

First of all i would like to say I am so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately I have went through the same thing but my baby wasn't as old as your baby. My first baby was stillborn at 8 months and i had a really hard time dealing with the loss sometimes i just needed to be alone and away from people hat kept reminding me of it also grief counselors could be a real help. I felt like the baby's father was really the only one who knew exactly how i felt.

Answer 5

((((Holly C))))... I don't think that you will ever have a greater loss than this. There is an organization called Two Candles that helps parents who have lost a child two or younger. I don't think that you will ever get over it totally, but time is a balm and as the days go on and you settle into a routine, there will be a time when the good days outweigh the bad ones. I know this from experience. I don't know what your faith is, but I went through a period of being angry with God... took me a long time to make peace with Him. The stages of grief are real, and you will get through them at your own pace...no one can rush you or help you "get over it."
Although I now have three beautiful children, not a day goes by that I don't think of the child I don't have here.
My heart goes out to you... as I said, nothing will ever be harder than this... but you can, and you will, get through this. My advice is to connect with others who have gone through the same thing, and when you are able to, perhaps you can do something special to remember your baby... adopt a same-age child from the Angel Tree at Christmas, or donate toys to the women's shelter, or volunteer to help others... I think that if you can find a way to turn it into something positive, you will begin to heal a little bit quicker.

Answer 6

I just lost my Son in March of this year. He was only 22 days old. He was/is also an identical twin. Most people say I should feel lucky to still have one and that just makes me even more crazier then I already am. I will tell you one thing Prozac has saved my life and my marriage. I left my hubby not long after Chase passed cause I felt he did not understand what I was really going through. Please do not try to deal with this on your own. October 15 is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day so many you can hold an event in your town in memory of your little angel. I'm doing one in Clayton NC. Please email me if you need to talk.
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Answer 7

hi there ,im so sorry to hear of youre loss no wordscan ever be able to ease youre pain except time and this is something that youll never forget but you will learn to cope with it i go to the grave and leave flowers and teddys and the odd helium balloon thats all that i can do youre memories will be there forever and you have those ever so precious photos and possible video tape of youre baby,these will be there worth more to you than anyone willever know i hope you can find some peace in youre memories and find a way to get on with your life and sort of move on you will when its right for you take care and i hope you find some peace and maybe some happiness and i know thatseem s a long road away take care sweet heart xx

Answer 8

First of all I am really sorry for your loss. it is not easy a mother to loose a child, honey , trust the lord and have hope and faith. God knows and he will take a way your pain. My niece passed away when she was 5 month , and she died a horrific death, she burned alive in the house, the whole pain it very much horrific. I was not know my sister will get through, but she did and she is trying the best she can. Just have faith ,trust in god and play to pass through it and god will heal your pain. I am really sorry I know the feeling because I loved my niece SO much as mine, and I still think of her everyday, but life goes on, there wasn't anything you should do , do not blame yourself, just try to focus on positive things and try to move on. Be strong and knows that you are not the only one and god do not hate you, he loves you and he will cure and heal your pain.

Answer 9

this happened to me back in 2004. i had a baby prematurely and she only lived one day. even for that one day i was very attatched to her. the bond that you get while carrying them is something. and to see them dying right before your very eyes, kills you inside. the only thing i could do was cry for her. i thought i would never want children ever again. but i knew i had to hold it together because i had a 3 year old little boy.
i have since then had another baby and he is 7 months old. i count my blessings everyday for them both. i do though want a little girl, but am afraid to get pregnant again. i do once in awhile pull out the pictures, and things the hospital gave me of my baby and just sit and wonder what could have been.
but just take each day one day at a time. god does things only he knows why......

Answer 10

I had a tubal pregnancy and I count that as losing a child....I deal with it but sometimes I wonder about what it would have been like to raise it and what kind of personality this child would have had.....I send out my condolences to you on your lost and wish you the best :(