we were friends. confusions entered in over time. i was married. he was single and we both felt attracted to each other. he got married. but he felt very bad that he got attracted to me. and we both tried to mellow our feelings. i missed him a lot after he married and we had fight as he deleted me from his regular email id. but he sent me card thru alternate id. and i said you are a player..he felt enraged adn we stopped talking for one year and then things were pretty bad..we had terrible fight. he was very angry. but after few months he came and said sorry and wanted me to get over bitterness..seemed pretty genuine. but he never flirted or showed me that he was interested in me. he said he is busy and one fine day he deleted me.
any guesses what happened?
did he try to remove the bitterness (scared taht i might screw him some day?) before eh deleted me again? but he made me feel that he was my friend and never missed response to im..such aperson could delet eme?
why?:(
2006-08-09 09:52:37 · 14 answers · asked by dsnmstis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to those who think i messed up..i moved on. he came back to me. i did nto run after him..then why did he come after me when he didnt want to be freinds?
2006-08-09 10:00:54 · update #1
I would say that he might in someway know that you have "more than friends" feeling from you. And with him being married, he might feel a certain type of a threatening boundries with you. His "real" life takes priorty over his "cyber" life. To have friends online is great, but he probably feels his real life takes priorty over you. I am sorry that you are hurt by this, but just let him be. Maybe write him a email telling you want nothing but the best in his life and happiness for him. And leave it at that. His wife is his best friend now.
2006-08-09 10:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As far as I could guess, he deleted you because he's had mixed feelings about you and finally couldn't deal with it anymore.
He didn't want to give up on you and tried to stick with the relationship, even through some bad fights (which, again, shows you the tension in the fact that you both were married but still "liked" each other yet could never have each other), but in the end it was just too much trouble and pain for him to deal with.
It's a tragic thing that you guys cannot maintain the friendship, but at the moment, it just isn't possible.
Maybe one day you can at least talk again, but I think you need to just not take it personally, accept it as just a part of life, enjoy your marriage to your hubbie as validation you are still loved, and let this thing go in the meantime.
2006-08-09 17:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i wouldn't be upset at what he did, but rather impressed. By deleting you he showed you that he cannot be around you without having feelings for you. there is something about you that he found attractive, and he was afraid that would he go on communicating and staying in touch it would lead to a place he didnt want to go. "If you stay in the barbershop to long, you will get a haircut". Nothing in life is certain, and by deleting you he was just trying to rid himself of thoughts that might come between him and his present wife. You should be proud that you had found such a strong willed man, instead of being concerned of what else it could possibly mean. Plus you're not alone, so there is no need to leave strings behind you as you walk.
2006-08-09 17:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by vakfly123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please follow the advice of all those who responded to you. The fact that you're asking that type of question is showing that you're not using good judgment. The type of relationship you want to build/have or continue with this person is inappropriate based on the feelings you continue to have... but in your heart I'm sure you already know this. Anything you attempt to do with him will become a distraction in your relationship and his. It will in the end hurt other people very deeply. An emotional affair is not healthy and certainly if your husband was doing something like this behind your back it sure wouldn't sit well with you. Marriage is honorable and not to be defiled . Focus on the relationship God gave you and live up to the vows/covenant you made.
2006-08-09 17:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are having an emotional affair, even if no sex was involved. I do believe that a man and a woman can be "just friends," but that doesn't sound like what's happening here. Maybe he deleted you because he has very mixed feelings and was trying to move on and stop the emotional affair and be emotionally true to his wife.
2006-08-09 16:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by mellexical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets see here.You tried to break up a marriage.You keep contacting him while married.And he now has an alternate email address.He as are you both players.get over it and move on with life.It's quite obvious it would not have worked in the first place.Your both acting in jeuvinile manners.It's not healthy to base relationships on ego's and keeping scores.Have a great day!! WILLIEGOGO:
2006-08-09 17:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by WILLIEGOGO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he realized that your friendship could not continue with both of you being married to someone else. It also sounds like he has anger issues and if this is the case you are better off not having him in your life.
2006-08-09 16:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by yonica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both idiots and you both were cheating on your partners. Delete each other from your lives and start a fresh honest life with your partners.
2006-08-09 16:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married why are you putting any energy towards this at all?
He is married and is trying to keep himself to his wife.
Let this go.
2006-08-09 16:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is married and so are you so get over him let him get on with his life. if he cheats on his wife with you then he will cheat on you also .grow up and get a life
2006-08-09 17:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by mama bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋