Do you believe that people should always be forgiven for the things they have done wrong?

Question

Some people like myself say that it depends on what the person has done wrong. Should that matter or should everyone be forgiven no matter what?

Answer 1

I have always the capacity to forgive, even things that are very, very wrong. But not forget. That means that while you are willing to forgive people, and not allow their past doings to change how you treat them now, and allow them to rehabilitate themselves, you will always remember what they did, and always remember they did it. It can be hard to seperate the two, but it is possible.

Answer 2

i think that forgiveness is meant to benefit the victim. forgiveness should be part of the healing process no matter how small the offense. The victim should be the most considered about forgivness, in the sense that they need to be ready to move on and grant forgiveness to thier offender.

I think that in an ideal world everyone should be forgiven (as long as both sides have had some kind of closure) this way there would be no need for revenge or grudges. However, that will never happen. I'd rather wait for peace in the middle east.

Answer 3

If you have been wronged by someone, forgiveness frees you and you are no longer bonded to that person but the act can be remembered; forgive the person but not forgive and forget the act. People who do really terrible crimes that haven't impacted me I don't believe deserve to be forgiven in some instances because what they have done is so horrific.

Answer 4

is forgiveness conditional to the degree of wrong committed ?
forgiveness is a key to elevate feelings of guilt and some shame.
but to all ill doings?
it depends but that can be interpreted as vague.
do i forgive my ex wife for her infidelities?
should my friends mother be forgiven for physically abusing his sister?
should have i not been forgiven as a teenage shop lifter?

these examples are true and out of the three i believe forgiveness should be granted to two of them because i am intimate with the circumstances that lead to the actions.
to another person whom may be unfamiliar with the details a bias view may be taken.
therefore i believe forgiveness is a personal issue.
forgiving oneself should be achieved to understand the impact of forgiving others.

Answer 5

As a Christian, I would say, yes. However it is not easy. Sometimes it can take years, but I do believe that the person who does the forgiving can move on better in their life if they let go and forgive, or at least, try to forgive.

"I bear no ill will, I bear no grudge." Spoken by Gordon Wilson after his daughter, Marie, was murdered by the IRA at the Enniskillen Rememberance Day Service on 8 November 1987.

Answer 6

It's your choice to forgive or not forgive, but either one has an effect on your life. Not the person u didn't forgive but yourself. You are not making that person miserable by you not forgiving but it's actually you who suffers. Forgiving someone is not really for them but it's more for your own benefit for you to get healed and become a better person. Forgiveness is like love, it's a commitment. Even if you find yourself still mad at that person when yesterday you claimed to have forgiven him doesn't mean you're incapable of forgiving. Forgiving is a choice. It only means letting it go. He causes you pain and it still hurts but if you forgive it only means that you're not giving that person the power he doesn't deserve for you to become scared, doubtful, hateful. Don't give that person power. Be a bigger person and love again.

Answer 7

This is a tough question. Looking at it from a religious point of view we should but looking from my own personal point of view this can be extremely difficult because it depends on how much damage you suffered from what the other(s) did to harm and hurt you. I always try to forgive because I want to move on with my life but forgiving doesn't mean that I forget what has been done and what it did with me.

Answer 8

It depends on the kind of wrong that the person has committed, the level of seriousness can be used to judge on whether the person can be forgiven

Answer 9

In my opinion forgiveness is an easy option.... it is very easy to forgive if you hsve no guts.... Religious people in particular seem to say that forgiveness is something they have worked at and its a hard thing to do. All I know is that if anyone ever doesanything seriously wrong to either of my children, forgiveness would not be an option and I could happily dedicate the rest of my life to finding them (and getting revenge). Religious people are very selish...they want it all for very little effort (in my opinion - no offence...)

Answer 10

Its all down to personal belief and trust. But there are lots of things that are unforgivable. So no people should not always be forgiven