my sister is bi and im suposed to be the stright one in the family but i dont know if i am or not
2006-08-09 09:07:04 · 22 answers · asked by Moe 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
oh and i think im attracted to my sisters girlfriend.
2006-08-09 09:19:58 · update #1
when u find ur self attracted to the same sex then ur bi or at least bi-curious
2006-08-09 09:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Brit♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you fantasize about being with women? does it make you wet? would you rather go down on women or men? When you think of how you want to live the rest of your life, do you visualize a girl best friend or a guy around? Have you ever thought of how your marriage would be?
i figured it out with those questions.. and no matter what you decide, it's your decision. Dont hold a reputation because your family deems you as it or that there MUST be a straight one in the family..
my aunts are lesbian, and are now adopting two children..
They did however consider getting pregnant themselves when they were younger.. and could have.
there is always a solution to a problem your family may impose on you if you decided youre lesbian or bi. Just be innovative and think it out..
Good luck!
2006-08-09 16:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by senacia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously the answer to your question is in your fantasies, and what gets you hot. I get turned on by guys, and I have no question about it, and I would not be ashamed if it were the other way around. Anyway, I know because of what turns me on when no one else is around, when I have fantasies (and no REAL person is around) the people I think about (whether the fantasy be emotional or physical) it's always about men, so, take a look at YOUR fantasies, are they mostly about men, or women, or perhaps both? Don't worry about "being the straight one in the family" you are not required to live by the labels that other people put on you. You need to focus more on what makes you happy, and if you find someone who you are physically attracted to and being with makes you happy then good for you, and who cares if it's a man or woman, what's important is life is full of unhappiness, but you find someone to help you get through that part of it, and makes you happy!
2006-08-09 16:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kat__hleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In everyones life they've had at least one sexual encounter with the same sex. You either choose to do it or you don't. If it is just a thought going through your head right now, don't worry about it. Everyone thinks about it.
If you have been with the same sex and you enjoyed it but feel you can't live without d*ck, then your Bi. If being with a man just feels funny to you and not that satisfying, how can I say it, it just feels odd. Like everything the guy does just kind of annoys you, then your a Les.
Hope something I wrote helped you out.
2006-08-09 16:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im guessing since you mentioned your sister and then questioned your own sexuality then it means that you think that lesbianism is genetic. why do you think that youre supposed to be the straight one? or is that the title your family put on you...?
the only real way to distinguish it is to think about if you would be disgusted if you were to be with another female, sexually. if you can fantasize it and even honestly consider it occuring in your REAL life, and you aren't disgusted, than you might be BI (that is, considering you're also attracted to men). if you've been with a guy and you get weirded out by it or are not TOTALLy into any guy thus far in your life, than you might be a lesbian.
good luck.
2006-08-09 16:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by BlondyyGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The is no "supposed to be" when it comes to your sexuality. In fact, an old friend of mine has a gay brother and sister, and she too dabbled in a bit of lesbianism, so there was no sibling that was supposed to be straight or gay. I don't think there is a certain time when suddenly an alarm will go off in your head indicating that now is the time to become a lesbian. It is something you feel and when it happens, you'll know.
2006-08-09 16:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find both sexes even mildly stimulating, you are probably bi. If you find women stimulating but not men, then you are a lesbian.
Either way, you must look deep inside yourself to make this decision. I do not think there is any wrong decision, so long as you go with how you feel.
2006-08-09 16:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you attracted to women? Could you see your self in a sexual relationship with them? If so you are bi. If you could see yourself with a woman more than a man and you are more attracted to women than men so just might be a lesbian. Nothing wrong with it...itas more common than you think. I'm Bi.
Have a great day!
2006-08-09 16:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by faery1219 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sexuality is not always about being attracted to just men or just women. There's a lot of people who think attraction is based on an individual basis.
If you are attracted to other females, regardless of whether your attracted to males, you are at the very least bisexual. If you are not attracted to males, and just females, you are lesbian.
2006-08-09 16:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have a friend who is bi so i should no. Lez- You no longer have any fellings twards guys. like you just want them as friends not boy friends. About you having to be stright- You shouldn't have to just cause ur sister is lez. Thats just wrong!!
2006-08-09 16:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is 'supposed' to be the straight one or the not straight one in a family, you just have to be yourself.
When I was 16 I figured out that I liked girls, it just felt right for me. My family was fine with it, my friends were good about it.
2006-08-09 16:13:03 · answer #11 · answered by Kutekymmee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋