Do children need a mother and a father raising them anymore, is this idea fading away? Please read below?

Question

Is the idea of a Boy/Girl growing up with a Male and a Female to identify with overrated.

My mom is gay and I gained a lot from her and just as much from my dad on what a good man should be. I don't think I'd be here if it wasn't for both. Now I see the new thing with same sex couples adopting or impregnating themselves and I wonder if Mother's and Fathers are losing their importance in this world.

I guess another part of this is, will Gay parents purposely ignore/not allow the influence a man/woman can have on your child, regardless of sexual orientation?

Granted there are single parents but children usually find a coach, or camp leader some one from church of the opposite gender raising the child to learn from and identify with.

I'm not bashing here either.

Answer 1

I personally believe that a child needs both male and female input in their lives to be a well rounded and balanced individual. But then again, people call me old fashioned -

Answer 2

With the divorce rate at 50% these days...it's hard to find a child that lives in a two parent household. I think the important thing is that children need a stable, loving environment. Wether that comes from one mom, one dad, two moms, or two dads.....it has to be a good environment. In no way do I think that a child with a mother and father living in the home have an advantage. Too many couples do not get along these days, and the fathers don't help out or spend time with their children. I say there is just a shortage of good men out there. Simple as that.

Answer 3

There are a lot of views on this subject. My personal belief is that a child just needs a loving supportive family structure to do well growing up. This could be a man and wife, Two mothers or two fathers or a single parent. If you leave religion out of this it is very clear. How many children have a mom and dad that are never home and you see the outcome here. It is important to have someone at home to nurture the child and answer questions they may have and to teach them right from wrong.

Answer 4

I grew up without a father figure. There are studies that say that a little girl will grow up to be a lezbo without a male figure in her life, but I'm straight.

I think sexual orientation is an innate, individual choice that has little to do with our upbringing. Nature, not nuture, determines ones sexuality.

As far as the whole mothers/ fathers losing importance thing, children and young adults will always need people they know they can depend on. It can be anybody- male or female, black or white or orange or whatever shade in between, gay or straight, liberal or conservative- a child doesn't care about such things. A parenting relationship is about love and caring.

However, one of my friends keeps insisting that gay couples adopt so they can force kids to grow up gay- like a gay conspiracy or something. I think that's idiotic, but nothing I say will convince her otherwise. I mean, do straight couples adopt to force a straight lifestyle on kids? No, they want to be parents. So why should gay people be different???

Answer 5

I think parenting needs to be done in the child's home, not by a coach, etc. Children need full time parents who are willing to instill discipline and morals in them without regard to any outside restraints that a coach or other outsider has.

I think that children are exposed to far less life enriching experiences if they are raised by a homosexual couple because they are only experiencing a parenting lifestyle which is accepted and practiced by less than five percent of the human population.

I fear the ramifications of the proliferation of a lifestyle which goes against most moral and legal codes which have been practiced by the majority of humans since the dawn of civilization.

I think that most people believe that if a small percentage of the world practice this kind of lifestyle, it will hurt nothing. Life will go on.

However, if left unchecked, a tipping point may be reached where homosexual pairings are considered the norm and the traditional roles of males and females will be eternally lost. Evolution has a way of adjusting to changes in the way humans attempt to preserve themselves from extinction.

But, who knows. It may be a better world.

I doubt it.

Answer 6

Children with a mother and a father definitely have the advantage. Unfortunately peoples morals have gotten so screwed up these days that it seems more common for women to have babies before marriage. They are doing a severe disservice to their children. People these days just think they can do whatever they want, whatever feels good without any regard for anyone else. Especially the children they bring into this world
I think it is a sad state of affairs for anyone to question the importance of a nuclear family. Maybe things wouldn't be so screwed up these days if more people had morals - got married, had children and STAYED married!!
(assuming of course there was no violence in the situation, then my comment should be ignored)..

Answer 7

I think the idea is fading awaybecause we have to be "politically correct" about everything because we must worry about offending everyone else.......People have been forced and convinced to believe that a child can grow up fine without both a make and female infulence because that is what the society is demanding right now. It used to be unheard of to raise a child without both parents.....there again, many woman stayed in bad relationships because of her children and she was miserable....i guess the answer is that it depends on the individual circumstances and no one is better fit to judge the other.

Answer 8

I think it's better to have two loving parents (Dad and Mom) bring up a child. The child gets both perspectives, male and female. However, I do not think that it is necessary. I have raised my son (15 years old) alone (husband passed away 8 years ago). He has his friend's Dads as male figures in his life.

Answer 9

I personally believe that it is in the child's best interest to have a male and female role model in their life. (If the male or female is an appropriate role model) I dontthink all Gay parents will purposely ignore the influence a man/woman can have on your child because that is all up to the individual couple....all people are different.

Answer 10

having both is very important, I have never had a good male influence, my parents divorced when I was 3 and I still know my father and see him on a regular basis, but I wouldn't call him a good role model, I only go over there because of my step family, he is a cheater, and the other day he told me that I was no longer his daughter, now I have a hard time trusting men, while I think that if I had had a good male role model I would be much more trusting