I raised my children by myself and never recieved more than a $1000 total from their father.I worked two jobs at times plus went to college. I left the father when my daughter was 6 and my son was 2.Recently, I had a health crisis and had surgery on both legs for abnormal blood flow.Their father recieved disability recently.He owed approx.$15,000 in back child support.He had an attorney and I had DHR so I only got$9000.My daughter is now 21, my son is 16.They said nothing about current support because my son was and is now recieving a check from disability.I was told that when his disability stops at age of 18, he would have to start paying again.A friend said, no, He is still suppose to pay if it is only $100 a month.DHR says I no longer have a case with them because he cleared up his back pay.I think I got jipped.What I recieved was not even $1000 per year for both children.I am in Alabama.
2006-08-09 09:02:04 · 11 answers · asked by tamjivey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need a lawyer. DHR only collects what there owed after that you have to sue for what you should recieve in support and with an attorney you will be able to sue for back pay also.
2006-08-09 09:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by hazyangelgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a child support order in effect I do not believe it matters that your son is receiving disability. If he is receiving SSDI from your or his fathers wages that is a completely different thing than child support and he is entitled to both. If your son is receiving SSI then that is a need based program and his SSI will decrease if he receives child support. Either way he is still entitled to the child support. If there is no longer a child support order in effect you would know this because his father would have had to petition the court to get it stopped. In any case go to the court office where the original support order was established and ask them for a copy. Once you have more information you can decide weather you need to petition the court to enforce the child support order or if you need to petition the court to re-reinstate the child support order. Just remember that child support and disability are two completely separate issues. You do not necessarily need an attorney because most states have set rules in place for child support, but if you are able to afford one it may be beneficial.
Also: SSDI will deduct current child support from your ex's disability check and send that money straight to you. All you need to do is contact your local Social Security office and give them a copy of the current support order. They will of course want to confim this but that is something they will handle you should not have to do anything but let them know that there is a current support order. Social Security Disability checks are NOT exempt from child support.
2006-08-09 09:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let it get to you that life isnt fair. just know that you have tried your best with what you were given to work with . also, speaking from experience their are always circumstances, due to how the world turns that everything happens for a reason and sometimes the crappier things are the better youll have it in the aftermath. you are in alabama but are you CRAZY? AS FOR THE STOPPAGE OF THE DISABILITY FOR YOUR SON IF IT DOES HAPPEN ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS FIND A REPUTABLE ATTORNEY THAT IS ALSO A PATIENT ADVOCATE AND IF YOUR SON IS TRULY IN NEED SOMETHING GOOD WILL COME OF IT. I DONT EVEN CARE IF YOU BELIEVE BUT I DO , THAT THE GOOD LORD WORKS IN WONDERFUL AND MYSTERIUOS WAYS SO BE GOOD AND LUCK WILL FOLLOW. HOWS THE WEATHER IN ALABAMA, BY THE WAY?
2006-08-09 09:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he paid more to you than my father ever paid my mother for me. Im not sure how things work there but i know here in canada when one is on disabilty he/ she does not have to pay the other parent anything. It doesnt make sence...and your kids must be ion school full time in order for him to pay... so if alabama is anythhing like canada then he probably wont have to pay any more. I also agree with you when you say you got jiped... but think of it this way... yoi raosed to kids pretty mch on your own with no help formt he father... so whoes that make the better of the two parents.... im sure the kids have a lot of respect for you for doing that to.... Im not sure what more to tell you besides hold your head up high and be proud of what you have done for your kids! im sure you were an excellent mother and i know it wasnt easy becase it wasnt easy for my mom to raise 2 kdis on her own... without even a penny each month.
2006-08-09 09:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call around and find a lawyer. Most dont charge for the first interview. You are indeed owed money. a lawyer can straighten this out. Dont get bogged down in the paerwork, let your attorney do it for you. It may take a while dont get discouraged. Good luck!
2006-08-09 09:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by Beamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If child support was a court order then he would still have to pay what is in orears.... My x got away with not paying for 17 years, we finally caught him and he had to pay me for what he missed, but he still got away with not paying for alot..... The system doesn't help as much as they need to... and it's too bad because it is the children that suffer for it......
2006-08-09 09:13:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact social services.
btw..."jipped" is a derogatory term
2006-08-09 09:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by tharedhead ((debajo del ombú)) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact legal aid n see what can get done
2006-08-09 09:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lawyer the best solution.
2006-08-09 09:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know but there is nothing wrong with"Jipped"
2006-08-09 09:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋