I find that caring about a subject only makes me more confrontational. If I don't care, then I don't get emotionally involved and am more relaxed with people.
2006-08-09 08:57:01 · 21 answers · asked by The Man 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I used to have this problem, and I still fight it. The reason you don't get confrontational with acquaintances is because you realize it is not your business. When it comes to friends or people you are intimate with, that line becomes blurred and you try to give them advice, even when they don't ask. That is what creates confrontation. For me, I found the best way to avoid that is to shutup. It's hard to do when you have an opposing opinion. But sometimes, people just don't want to hear it. So only give advice when people ask for it.
Don't stop creating meaningful relationships because you become confrontational. You do that because you care and you are trying to help. But realize sometimes the best way to help is to just listen, as corny as that may sound.
2006-08-09 09:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by queenoftheoakies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so true. I find that I tend to make other people's problems, my problems and that only creates drama and stress in our relationship. I guess if you aren't emotionally attached, you would get along better because you really wouldn't have an opinion or feelings about their issues.
2006-08-09 09:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tasha82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah but it's only human natural that something will strike a sense of compassion for something someone else can care less about... So
Yup ur right but u have to start caring after a while u know or u have no soul.
Got Soul?
2006-08-09 09:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'm kind of the same way. I can be very stubborn and aggressive when I have a strong opinion about something. But if I really don't give a crap about it, it's easier for me to get along with people.
2006-08-09 10:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finally, someone just like me. I try not to get close to people just for that fact. I don't need all the drama of something that makes me or others confrontational.
I find life is easier, and more fun that way.
The best part? When someone tries to get you mad and no matter how hard they try, you just don't care enough to give them the satisfaction.
Watching them get frustrated is worth it.
2006-08-09 09:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the same way when a girl is trying to meet guys. If she tries too hard, then the guy thinks she's desperate. Since I got married and don't even look at guys anymore, they are so much more attracted to me for some reason. Why is that?
2006-08-09 09:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by Julie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, if you care about your image or how people will see you when you're with this person, you may not get along very well with it because you're not trying to get involved in it.
2006-08-09 09:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by simfr21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotions bring on the need to advise and control a situation.
Getting along can be an exercise in Fake.
2006-08-09 09:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by tincre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you do ! 'cos when you don't care whatever the other person has no power to hurt you or influence your opinions, but does it not feel nuts when u spend time with people you really do not care about. Don't you feel like standing at a crossing and talking to anyone and everyone who walk by you about yourself!
2006-08-09 09:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by imhm2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup i agree! Ive told my gf that a million times. its always easier to get along with someone when there aren't deeper feelings involved. when you care about someone something then little things start to matter because you have a invested interest now!
2006-08-09 09:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by throughtheseyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋