My friend of 15 years doesnt approve of my boyfriend chris because he is white, she belives i should date a black man and that chris is no good
I think chris is the best thing that ever happend to me, we connect well and he is a wonderfull friend, he protects me and my heart and is always there for me , he is wonderfull and i love him but it hurts that my friend always has something to say negative about him because he is white , my family adores him and so do my other friends it seems as if she is the only one who doubts the relationship i have never broght him around her because iam scared of her hurting his feeling
chris is an amazeing guy what should i do about the situation??
2006-08-09 08:40:30 · 27 answers · asked by LightSkinnedPrincess 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
well you should follow your heart and do what you think is right, and try talking to your friend and maybe you can try to get her to understand how much you really love him, don't let him go he is a good one, i had one but let it go because my friend didn't like that he used language in every sentence, and i regret everyday of my life. but he would compliment me everyday.............................. hope this helps!!!
2006-08-09 08:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by *~brit~* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy is respecting you and treating you like an individual, then stay with him, because no matter what race he is a "gentlemen" is very hard to find. I am sorry to say this, but your friend isn't really a friend if she is telling you that your boyfriend is no good because he is white. A real friend should support your decision to be with that person, no matter ethnicity, religion,etc.
2006-08-09 12:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by dani010191 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do nothing. It makes no difference what your friends say. This is your relationship, your decision. There will be many who will be biased due to the racial makeup of you as a couple.
If you're happy and he's happy it makes no difference what anyone else says. Some people just have a problem with other people being happy.
2006-08-09 08:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR BEST FRIEND THAT THIS IS A DECISION YOU & CHRIS MADE TO BE TOGETHER. IF SHE'S AS GOOD A FRIEND AS YOU SAY THAN SHE SHOULD EXCEPT THE RELATIONSHIP, UNLESS SHE'S JEALOUS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH CHRIS. SHE MAY FEEL THAT HE IS COMMING BETWEEN THE TOW OF YOU SO PERHAPS YOU THREE SHOULD FIND SOME COMMON GROUND , SPEND SOM TIME TOGETHER, HAVE DINNER OR PERHAPS A CARD GAME. IF SHE'S SEEING SOMEONG YOU ALL COULD PROBLY DOUBLE DATE. ANYWAYS CHRIS SOUNDS GREAT, HE'S A KEEPER. TALK TO YA GIRL AND MAKE HER UNDERSTAND THAT THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT. GOOD LUCK
2006-08-09 08:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by Wisline F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly, some people just think that people should only date people in their race. But, maybe it isn't his skin color thats bothering her. Maybe he reminds her of a boyfriend or a friend she once had. What you might wanna try and do is, just sit her down, and tell her how chris makes you feel. Real friends would be happy for someone that makes you happy. Best of luck
2006-08-09 08:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by wonderingcreativity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to your friend that skin doesn't matter Chris is a wonderful person inside and thats really what counts. I am for personalitiy and not for look your friend of 15 years should very well understand this.
2006-08-09 08:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by GodisLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's WRONG!!!! First of all you are old enough to decide who you want to date, and you can make your own decisions.If you really like this guy the color of his skin should not matter one bit. And I think that your friend is the one that is no good cause she is a racist. And its people like that , that keep racism alive. I she really was your friend she would be happy for you no matter what she thinks .I say keep the boyfriend and dump the friend.
2006-08-09 08:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your friend may be racist. If she was a true friend she would accept who ever makes you happy. And she should be happy for you. Chris sounds like a wonderful person, a keeper. Tell your friend if she can't accept Chris and continues to put him down because of his color, then maybe she just should stop being your friend. I hope this helps.
2006-08-09 08:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by organic gardener 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it doesn't matter how your best-friend feels about him. It is about how you feel about him and how he feels about you. As much as she doesn't like him, she'll have to get used to him because you want him in your life. You should talk to her and tell her that you don't want to lose her over a guy and that if she was really your "best friend" she would support you and your decision. I hope this helps and I personally love inter-racial relationships and I wish you guys all the luck in the world.
2006-08-09 08:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by Ai-Shiteru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Maybe ask why she doesnt like the idea of you dating a white guy. Possibly she she some unresolved issues or unfound assumtions. Maybe if you know why she doesnt like the idea you can help her get over it, or atleast just see where shes coming from.
2006-08-09 08:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by weathergirl06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's jus jealous because ur not spending as much time with her she needs a man now and mayb she won't be as bitter itz not that she don't like ur dude because he's white itz jus that she feels left out now make her understand that u have a man now and u can't spend all ur time with her
2006-08-09 09:02:46 · answer #11 · answered by powderjusblazin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋