Is it better to have loved and lost or to not have loved at all?????

Question

this question has been buggin the hell outta me.....so had to ask!!!

Answer 1

Some would say it was better to love. But I loved someone for 3yrs with everything I possible could. And do you know what I got out of it all? I was beat on a daily bases for things as small as dinner being cold or his show not being on. Then he kidnapped me and almost killed me and I almost lost my children because of this man and my stupidty to love somone like this.

So in my opinion, no I would have rather not loved at all. Because everynight and every day my heart aches with a pain that no one but me can feel and see. Its a pain that I would never wish upon even my deadliest enemy. It hurts and it never really heals not even with time. So no I would have rather not loved at all.

But then again I do know thta not every love is the same and there are millions of ppl out there that are happy together and would disagree with me and they would say it is better to love then not at all. It really depends on how you were loved. If it was a good love and not dark then i would say that it is better to love and lost then not at all.

But for anybody that has been in a love like mine, we all wish we had never loved at all. GOOD LUCK to all those in love and happy!!!!!!!

Answer 2

It is always better than to have tried something and lost than not to have sampled it at all. Love is an experience that everyone should have the pleasure of saying they felt at least once in their life. Some people are lucky and can say that they have been touched by this blessed feeling on more than one occassion and others I'm afraid have never had the opportunity. So I guess the simple answer to your question would be a resounding yes as it is better to have love and lost then to have never have loved at all.

Answer 3

better to have loved. because it teaches u who u are, what kind of person u can be, how much u can endure.... u have to be strong not to let it damage u when love is lost.... realize that learning to love someone is such an awesome thing, and when u find someone who loves u in a positive, healthy way, u will never regret anything! i am so glad i am who i am from the past relationships, no matter how much i've been hurt.. i use that to learn daily and grow for my boyfriend now. we've learned so much together too, and we can compare our wonderful relationship to the past ones that have failed.. keep it up, and look for the "right" one!

Answer 4

Yes, because it's a life experience that builds character. It also prepares you for the next love, that also might be lost. The point is, you try love until you find the right mate, then you'll not lose.

Answer 5

If you have never loved you would probably think it was a lot better than it really was and always want it. When you lose love, at least you know it hurts more than it helps so you don't miss it.

Answer 6

Depends upon your point of view. If you have loved and lost, you'll have known the joy of love, but feel the pain of loss (which for some is quite extreme).

If you have never loved, then you'll have missed that great joy...but you won't feel the lack of it because it's hard to miss something you've never had.

Answer 7

I have loved and lost and it totally sux. I think I would rather not have had to go thru the pain and suffering. But everyone has their own opinion so no answer is really wrong.

Answer 8

It is better not to have loved at all...the pain that comes with losing a person after loving him is unbearable...so, rather than getting hurt by loving and losing...it is better to never have loved and to live your life with no pain!

Answer 9

Loved and lost. It is wonderful to experience love, even if it doesn't last forever.

Answer 10

i think its better to have never loved at all...dont know what ur missing if u've never had it.....when u have loved and lost u feel like somethings missing and u want it back.